takethetime

It is really hard to loose a Grandparent and to loose 2 people in a year it is no wonder you cry. Who can understand life and why these things happen. It does shake your faith. I lost my dad and grandmother within a month of each other and they were my favorite people in the world and though it was over 22 years ago I still miss them. Grief happens but it does get a little less painful step by step. I try to think of the things that I accomplish that they would be proud of and I also talk to them. I remember for months after my dad died I would think of something I wanted to tell him and then how devastated I felt when I remembered he wasn't there. A month ago I lost my mother. You lost a grandparent rapidly without time to process what was happening and you are also in a very stressful time in your life. To loose someone in such a fast period of time takes an adjustment. Talking about your pain to someone is good and I think the more you talk and remember the fun you had with your GrandDad and remember how proud he would be of you that the pain will become less intense, not that you will forget, just that you will come in touch with your thoughts. Take time to enjoy your good memories. Myra

My mother died on October 25, 2004, that was the second time the first time was when I realized how changed her dementia made her. The mother I keep remembering was the one who would yell at me "I don't have Alzheimers". I would respond no, i don't think you have Alzheimers but something is wrong. For over 2 years I tried to get her doctor to examiner her and for 2 years "your fine, tell your children to stay out of your life". My mother was a gifted talented artist who could complete anything she set her mind to. I was never good enough for her yet I kept trying. I reconciled myself to love her and after my dad died 22 years ago, I tried to do what I knew he would want me to do. I know that she loved me but that last year was so hard. She couldn't cook, operate a TV, she continued to deny anything was wrong. She would tell me "you have to quit telling people that I am crazy". I would respond "I have never called you crazy". Now that she is gone I feel like I have been mourning for the same thing twice and practice does not make perfect.