Rosella

Thanks Scotty and Kay for your words of encouragement......today, I don't feel really encouraged but I guess from what I read, there are days and then there are days....Others have done it and I will too.....just wish it were easier....don't we all.... I am getting ready to go to Hawaii for a week ..my oldest son and his wife insist that I go with them....so guess I will. Hope it helps....but I just gotta come home, back to the empty house. I hate leaving my little dog...he is just coming around to be more normal and I leave him ....but ...they tell me dogs are resilant and he will cope ok...probably better than me.... He has been soooo close to me ever since my guy left us.....won't leave my side so I worry about him now too....

Thank you... I couldn't have said it better......it expressed my sentiments exactly.... Beautiful

Haven't been on for a little while......I did start having a hospice counselor come to talk to me, I just didn't feel ready for a support group... She has helped me a lot....that and reading all these postings. Guess I am not alone in what I feel....lonely, helpless, useless.... I have started seeing some friends again. It is hardest when I have to see couples that we enjoyed....but the second time seeing them was better and I didn't bawl all night. I am slightly handicapped and I guess I just feel so lost as my husband did sooo much for me. But I actually went shopping today and I DID it!!....It felt good...so maybe there is hope for me yet. It has been a month and a half now, some days it is a bit better, others it is worse...but reading all of the bulletins, I find this is normal too....so I have hope that things will get better...someday.... Thanks for listening....

Thanks Derek..... If crying helps, then I should get well real soon... I am trying to stay busy and trying to start going out to see friends.....Hopefully that is gonna help............. Maybe I will try a support group one day soon............. thanx Thanks for all your replys to me...Scotty, Kay, Karen, Derek..... Means a lot to me and just reading your answers does help.... My kids are wonderful....the oldest and his wife is gonna take me to Hawaii for a get away for a week here later in teh month, so gives me soemthing to look forward too, but the evenings are sooo long. I am trying to get out among friends so hope that helps too....again thanks and I'll be back on..... I am not sure I am using this site correctly...but maybe I will learn.

Thanks for answering Wendy. I was like you...I met him whe I was 13....married him when I was 16 and had 2 wonderful boys. I have the best family in the world...but they live in another state. He was my entire life. He passed away with emphysemea..... I just have to try to stay busy, if I don't seems all I do is cry......I can't wish him back to be that sick again, but..... I am sorry to hear of your guy too......so many of my friends have lost their hubbys in last few yrs and I am soooo sorry I wasn't there for them more. Sometimes I just feel so alone....a phone call or visit just means so much... Did yu go to grief support meetings. I am in a quandry about that as when I talk about it all I do is cry....so hesitate to go to the meetings... thanks again...

I just lost my husband on Jan 7.....I know exactly what you are going thru. The evenings are the worse and being so alone. I am trying to accept invitations like you, but it is so hard without him. We were maried 62 yrs. I keep reading the sites hoping for help and I guess it does just knowing that others go thru the same thing. I have found out that it is a long process getting thru all this. I have started back to church. I plan on starting back on my volunteer job. My children are taking me on a trip for a week, hopefully that will help...but I still have to come home to an empty house.... Just wish me luck and same to you..