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Kathy

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  1. Yes dealing with death is so hard.. I have been though so many deaths in my life, it should be normal now, but each time it hurts so much, my mother-inlaw and father-inlaw, now my own Mom,, the closer it gets to you the harder it gets..my stepfaher is in bad health also now and he is 77 years old.. Dieing is part of life, like being born.. but that is a hard part for me to deal with. I know they are better off then we who are living.. it is the missing part, knowing you will never see them in this life again..but they are not suffering anymore, I seen my Mom and father-inlaw suffer.. they are at peace now with God..I understand your pain over losing your Mom at a early age.it will take a while before the pain eases, it is normal, I still miss and cry over my in-laws deaths. they died in 1998 and 2001...it will just get alittle easier as time passes..but with my Mom I don't know, she was my all with my husband and daughters.I have a 2 year old granddaughter, I thank God everyday for her and my family.. it took me almost 11 years to become a grandmother, it was a miracle from God. So I do have her to spend my time with now..So God is Good and knows what his plans are for our future. Just keep praying and God will be with you and your sister..Hugs, Kathy
  2. Drew, I just turned 56 this pass Monday Feb 4th, My Mom passed away last Friday January 29th, I am still trying to accept this, we were like 17 years apart in age. she sometimes felt like my sister, we did many things together when I was growing up.. THERE WILL NEVER BE ANYONE LIKE YOUR MOM, SHE CARES AND LOVES YOU KNOW MATTER WHAT YOU DO OR SAY.. THAT IS JUST THE WAY IT IS.. when I had any problem I could tell Mom and she would alwys say it will work itself out, don't worry.. Now no one is left to tell me that..my inlaws died also back in 1998 and 2001. Moms care for their children very much,, if they are the good Moms they are suppose to be. that is because they give birth to us and raise us.. then we share alot with them..I feel so sorry for you because you are so young and to have lost your Mom, but what memories you have of her will alwys be in your heart and remember she will be waiting for you when your day comes to meet the Lord..I don't mean to make like I am soo religious, but I have been though so many deaths in my life so far, and I know there is something better for us in the next life. God has been with many times thoughout my life and I know he will help me now, if not for God, we would have nothing to pin our hopes on in this world. God Bless You and remember I am here to answer or be your friend, Love , Kathy
  3. Hi, my name is Kathy, and I understand the sorrow of losing your Mother so unexpected, My Mother inlaw died like this from an auto accident..it is shocking and painful. she was coming to see me when she was in the accident, which added to my guilt.. alwys thinking what if... she hadn't of been coming to my home , would this have happened?.. we go though so much in our thoughts and minds. last week we made a decison not to put our Mom though more suffering and it was shocking to know nothing else could be done, She died and I was watching this with my family on January 29 2008 ..I am in raw pain and grief right now and new here.. I sure hope all turns out well for you .. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Don't give up.. I got to where I take one day at a time, and just pray and pray! I am glad I found this site also, hope to here from you when you are able to get on computer!!
  4. Thanks for responding.I fully understand about the hard struggle of caring for parents, My Mom was not able to care for herself for a number of years, My sisters and I tried to care for her, we didn't want to put her in a nursing home, she begged to go, since she thought she was a burden to all of us.. it was hard, but we loved our Mom and wanted to care for her as much as we could. She was also bi-polar ( a chemical imbalance for years) so we had our hands full.. My stepfaher is not in good health either,but I haven't done alot for him, since Mom needed our help so much!! Just the way she died and the suffering is so much to bear and think about. but I am so happy she isn't suffering and trying to breathe all time..It is hard to watch a loved one suffer.. I am use to death, my Mother-inlaw died in 1998 from a car accident, and my Father-inlaw died in 2001 from lung cancer, not counting all the deaths of my Mom's sisters and brothers and a few cousins and friends..We all know death comes to all of us someday, I also lost a great friend when my husbands Granny died in 1997..My grandparents have been dead along time.. But Mom and my sisters were close and we alwys shared everything basically and I will miss her sooo much, I have 2 sisters and brother.. (also I have two beautiful daughters and a grandbaby who is almost 2 years old.)Thank God for them and for my wonderful husband also.. God will see me though this, but it will be so hard. I can't face going though Mom's things yet, too soon!!! God be with you though your suffering and loss also.. I still think about my inlaws all time, especially holidays are bad..please continue to respond it helps, I just turned 56 Monday Feb 4th. hoping we can continue to share our pain and hardships.. God Bless You! Kathy AnnieO Thanks for your response.. I am sorry for your loss also. the main thing to think about is they are not suffering anymore and with their loved ones who have gone before them. God has them in his arms now and can do a better job of caring for them.. I KNOW GOD KNEW WE COULDN'T NO LONGER CARE FOR MOM AND HE TOOK HER HOME SO SHE WOULD NOT SUFFER ANYMORE AND BE IN HIS CARE. BUT GOD KNOWS ALSO THAT WE WILL MISS HER SO MUCH, AND ONE DAY WE WILL MEET AGAIN!! POSTING HELPS AND SHARING THE GRIEF AND PAIN. Kathy Elizabeth A. Thanks for responding... yes Mom went home, but at the time I didn't know if she mean't she wanted to go home, or go home to the Lord. I know she is with the Lord now and out of her suffering...I will miss her soo much..the birthdays will always be hard, since we shared our birthdays together..Mom looked at peace after she died and was beautiful and even looked younger.. I feel like she was finally at rest and not struggling and worrying about things anymore. that really helps...but the pain of losing Mom is so hard and I will carry her memory and our memories for the rest of my life. I grew up with people thinking we were sisters, since Mom was only 17 years older then me..we acted like kids alot together and shared alot.Just keep me in your prayers and my family also. Kathy Drew Thanks for your response..yes it was soo hard to see Mom suffer and die,but I know others have to deal with this also. but when it comes to your own Mom and someone close to you, it can about kill you.. But GOD has brought me though so far..Mom wanted me to arrange her funeral. I had my sister to help me, that was hard, but I did it and I think I did a great service for my Mom, since her funeral was so nice.( if funerals are nice) as the Good Book says we are suppose to rejoice when someone dies and cry when they are born..but we don't do this. It is so painful and hurting to be happy....hope to hear from you again, I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts..God Bless You! Kathy
  5. I am new here to this group.. The hurt is so raw right now, I just needed someone to listen to me, I knew my Mom was sick with COPD and on oxygen 24/7 and alot meds, also she had a few other problems. I am thankful I had my Mom for almost 73 years.. She turned 73 Feb 3rd 2008. and I had my birthday Feb 4th 2008. We always celebrated our birthdays together, She passed away January 29th 2008, a few days before her birthday. We weren't expecting her death like this, started out with pnumonia and she was in 3 different hospitals in January, she had stopped breathing was put on a ventilator for 3 days, lots of things started happening at once. I want go into all the details, but it was soo hard to see my Mom suffer like this, in the end she couldn't respond to us and tell us anything, All I can remember of her last words to me was she wanted to go home.. The hard part was the decision to not put Mom though anymore suffering and the doctors said nothing else could be done for her, and I will never forget watching her die as they remove all the machines and all the medicines accept pain meds ( we didn't no if she was in pain or not). I am 56 as of this pass Monday,, I have 2 younger sisters and 1 brother.. my stepfather is also living and in bad health. I loved my Mom so much and I will miss her like crazy, my younger sister and I cared for her off and on thoughout the years.. more then my other sister, she helped some, We all have bad health and it wasn't easy for us to care for Mom. but we did the best we could. Mom was a loving person, with a streak of stubborness just like me. I know I will have to adjust to what is coming and it will be hard.. I just needed someone to be there to listen.. God has been Good to me in many ways, I know he will help me though this. I am so glad my Mom isn't suffering now, and is with God and her loved ones who passed on before her. She was the last immediate family member living out of 12 kids.. May God Care For Her Now, Thanks for listening, Kathy
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