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mfarah

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  1. Kim, Your sister in law sounds like a strong person and she has been taking every fight with no problem you just have to remember take care of yourself as your family struggles through this difficult time. If you feel it will be to much to handle to sit with her in the hospital don’t force yourself your sister in law will completely understand go when you feel your ready. I will keep you and your family in prayers. Please continue to keep us updated. Love, Marlene
  2. Kay, I am so sorry you are having to deal with another problem in life and I know you might feel like it will never end, never go away but remember you are a very strong person and this is just another challenge in your life that you will jump through its obstacle it might not feel like it now but just what you have helped me with in the time I have known you these past 6 months I know you are strong and everyone else here knows that as well. Always know we are here with you in every challenge to back you up on whatever you decide. Best of luck to you and I will continue to keep you in my prayers for strength to get through this hard time. Love, Marlene
  3. Jackie, I am sorry you are having a hard time you just have to remember you are strong and you just need to give yourself time life will eventually get easier for you and you have so many reasons to stay patient with yourself always think back to what you have been told one minute at a time. I have to remind myself that daily when the pain hits so hard I am 6 months into this ugly ride but honestly when I first got on I really did not believe I would make it this far but I did and though its not been easy I can say its got easier so just continue to stay on and always know you are not riding alone we are all sitting in the bumpy seats next to you. Take care of yourself today, tomorrow and always. Love, Marlene
  4. Gail, Congratulations on your new grandson what a beautiful blessing. Brody will be your new strength and joy in life enjoy every moment of it. God Bless you and your family.
  5. Kay, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. Please stay strong for Virgie and for yourself just remember we are all here for the both of you. I will keep you both in my prayers. Love, Marlene
  6. Kathy, That is such a wonderful idea for a group of people to help widows and single ladies with home repairs. God knows I sure can use help with so many things around my house and it seems like after Jack passed away everything started to go wrong. I am so clueless when it comes to maintenance around the house my only responsibility was to clean it I mean seriously the first time I ever changed a light bulb was after Jack passed away and when I did it without electrocuting myself I was so proud for an accomplishment I made such a big deal about lol. I love to do yard work but I can never get the lawnmower to start so I always end up going to my next door neighbors house and bother him to come start it for me but by the time I have to edge or blow off the driveway I don’t want to go and bother him again to come start those for me too so my yard is always halfway done with grass and leaves still in the driveway. I have a new project now which is to change my daughters crib into the toddler bed so I figured how difficult can this be right, so I pulled out the instructions and all the different screws I looked at the crib and then looked at Natalee and said to her maybe when you start kindergarten we will just buy you a new bed one that can be delivered and put together for us so until then just sleep here or with me lol. My husband was so good with his hands he loved to repair things he was always putting things together it was his passion and I was the opposite I just never had patience and of course now the patience is extremely low. I plan on putting my house up for sale at the end of the summer but the bathrooms need to be retiled and I don’t intend on hiring someone who will come in there look at me and think to them self oh she looks like a gullible person let me jack up the price a few more thousand so I have no idea what to do. That is one of the reasons I am selling my house I am just going to move to California and live with my parents and not have to deal with any of this anymore. I wish all of us widow’s luck with any challenges that come our way and strength to figure it out. If you find out anything more about the volunteer groups and their areas please keep us posted. Love, Marlene
  7. Shhh65, I am so sorry to hear about your loss but I am glad you finally decided to post your feelings. I lost my husband 1 month prior to you loosing yours on November 22, 2007 Thanksgiving Day and like you I am new to this horrible journey but somehow everyday I am blessed with strength to get to the next day. I am told by so many that time will heal all wounds though I don’t believe mine will ever be healed I just hope in time the wound will be bearable to live with and I pray that for all of us here. Please take care of yourself and continue to come here as often as you need to we will always listen and help you even when you feel alone you will see here that you never are we all know exactly how you feel. Love, Marlene
  8. Jackie, Sorry for the loss of your husband. Welcome to this wonderful group I am so sorry you had to join us but just know you came to the right place for support. I lost my husband 5 months ago he was only 33 and at that moment my world was turned upside down and I never believed I would be able to get through one day without him let alone 5 months but I am here to tell you that every new day starts whether we like it or not and somehow we all survive it even when we feel no strength to go on and once the shock wears off , the grief becomes a rollercoaster ride on minute you will be okay and then the next minute the pain is so overwhelming but always remember you will get through it just allow yourself to go through the grieving it will make you a stronger person. You’re going to experience all kinds of different pain from denial to anger but it’s all normal every feeling you have is normal even when you think it’s not just come here and you will always find someone that knows exactly what you are feeling. I too, wanted to turn to alcohol after my husband passed away though I was never a heavy drinker only a social drinker but after a couple of nights of drinking I realized it only made me worse off and I did not want my daughter to know me as the mom who always cried and was drunk besides that my husband hated it when I drank so I decided not to escape from my grief because it will always be there so I had to face it and got past the point of temptation to turn to alcohol. So please continue to fight your temptation for alcohol it will pass as well try to find something healthy to turn too. Take care of yourself and don’t try to do more than your body allows you too its okay if things don’t get done today there will always be tomorrow and remember we are all here for you we all understand your pain and we will help you through it. This place and all the wonderful people here have been my lifesaver. In time you will notice we are all family here none of us our judged on our feelings we all just love each other and are here to help one another through this journey of our life so welcome to our family. Love, Marlene
  9. Kay, I am so sorry your friend is going through all this but she is very lucky to have you there to be her strength. I will definitely keep you all in my prayers. Please keep us updated and make sure you take good care of yourself. Love, Marlene
  10. Teny, I hope you are feeling better just remember you have to take care of yourself no matter how hard and exhausting it may be. Take your antibiotics the entire time you are instructed by your doctor even if you feel better before. To answer your question if this gets easier I have been told it does but tomorrow will only be 5 months for me and it seems to get harder and harder every month but I have all my friends here that inspire me and show me motivation to continue to go on for tomorrow. Just keep clawing your way up and stay strong we are all here for you. Love, Marlene
  11. Kayc, I think I read your post about 10 times already today and cried more and more each time. You have summed up everything we all lost the day we lost our loved one and to see how you are overcoming your journey through grief each day as a stronger person it really inspires me and I am sure everyone else here that one day we all will be able to build a new and different identity for ourselves we just need courage to fight our battlefield alone and eventually we all will be as strong as you have become. Thank you for your lovely words. Love, Marlene
  12. Lyn, I know exactly what you mean even though its only been less than 5 months for me and to soon to focus on any kind of “drive” I think of my future and I feel all the goals I had in life involved Jack and the day he left I feel all my dreams left with him because it all seems so useless now. I know I had a drive before I met him but I can’t remember what I forgot all that the day I met him and now to try to focus on building a new goal in life without him just seems impossible. I feel my life is pretty much over now so I just try to focus on furthering my daughter’s goal and her future I really have no other desire for myself anymore just whatever accomplishment is best for her. Sorry to be no help but hopefully one day a door can open for all of us and we can all find strength to achieve our dreams. Love, Marlene
  13. Wow how exciting that you all finally got to meet. I am jealous as well but I was thinking why doesn't everyone take a vacation and come to Florida in the summer LOL. Well I plan to be in California this time next year so if you guys continue to meet up then hopefully I will be able to join as well. I wish there was a widow/widower convention or something in that line where everyone can meet others that are/have experienced the same loss and to have motivating guest speakers that can give us all words of confidence. I would love to meet everyone on this site that has helped me so much the past 4 and half months and especially Mrs. Marty to thank her for introducing me to all my new friends here. Love you all Marlene
  14. Teny, I am so sorry you’re having a difficult time just know that we are all here for you to help you through this. You are inspiration to me and to others who are new on this journey it has only been 4 months for me and to know that you have made it 17 months just gives me hope and as hard as it is right now and you might not feel it but you are a very strong person just keep pushing through the days and nights until happiness can one day find you again. We are here for you the entire month of April and as long as you need us. I am sending a lot of love your way. Love, Marlene
  15. Kim, I am thinking of you today and keeping you in my prayers just remember that Dan is still with you no matter how far the distance is. Stay strong and we are all here for you with a lot of hugs and love today and everyday. Love, Marlene
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