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About 4 weeks ago I came off an antidepressant which allowed the unresolved grief issues over my sister's death to surface. I belive that the anti-depressant kept me from fully grieving her loss which I am in the process of doing now. A collegue, therapist, and good friend who has known me over the years knows exactly where I am at and says perhaps just a small dosage of an anti-depressant (not the one that I was on) could be beneficial until resolution and integration is accompliushed. I see my MD on Monday to explain what has been going on, and to get a med check (I am also on a synthroid med.) I seem to be doing well and don't really want to take any more meds. I would appreciate any advice in this respect.

I know the pain of losing a sister. I am 52 years old and live in Tampa, Fl. My sister, Nancy died 4 years ago this month. I soent those 4 years helping others through their grief, and now it's time for me. I couldn't belive that the emotions clamoured for attention starting in September. I returned home to visit my elderly Mom and surviving brothers over the weekend that was the 4th Anniversary of my sister's death. It was a very difficult trip because my Sis and I would handle the problems of the family together. It was brought home to me that she was no longer there to help. I felt alone, and missed her terribly. Thank God for this web site, and for th e moderator. It certainly is helping me to face into my grief. Here I thought it was all kinds of medical issues going on....the memories of my sister and I come fast and furious. Once I allowing myself to cry as I recall the memory there is an "integration...a calming...a peace". It's almost like a volcanno erupting...I am thankful that this is happening. Journalling and searching for a bereavment group is also helpful. My schedule is allowing time to do this. My pain is like her death just happened. I have begun to gather some of her personal effects in the house....also getting pictures together and making an alblum about our friendship is a goal of mine. Let me know what others are doing to work through their grief.

About 6 weeks ago my wife and daughter, and I moved into the house once owned by my sister and her husband. She died some 3 years ago (Nov. 12) and my brother in law died this past January. The house was willed to me. It is a beautiful house. This past Nov 12 I got hit hard with my Sisters anniversary. Alot of memories come back now that I am living in the house. It dawned on me that I was always taking care of everyone else and never grieved her death to the point of resolution. I have done alot of work in the grief area, but somehow this is different. She was the oldest in my family of origin and I the youngest. However, she was closer to me and I her. When she died so went my friend the one that really understood me and with whom I could tell almopst everything to. Since she was 15 years older than I she was also like a mom to me as well. The anniversary grief was/is intense. I have been journalling, talking to a good friend, and working in the yard. Thanksgiving we had my wife's family over and it brought back memories of the Thanksgivings I spent here with my sister. Has anyone had a similar reaction....?