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SoHard2LetGo

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  1. MikeyW, I would like to add my congrats on the test results. It won't change the loss you feel over Pumpkin, but at least you can bury the dread you had to be carrying about the others. Open your heart and let your surviving babies help you heal. They may only be waiting for a cue from you to let them be close. Best wishes. I truly know how very hard it is to let go.
  2. MikeyW, My heart truly goes out to you. Having to make the choice of when to end the suffering of one of our "eternal children" is the most difficult task we are ever asked to bear. They look to us to make everything right in their world and sometimes the feeling of failure to do so seems almost too hard to bear. This past year fate chose to take 4 of my babies from me. 2 from cancer and 2 from old age at ages 12, 17, 18 and 13. When each of their times came I knew in my heart that I was doing what was best for them, but it didn't lessen the pain. Even knowing they were well cared for, well loved, and (as large dogs) blessed with a fairly long life gave me little comfort. No matter how old they get, they never live long enough. My last old guy under went chemo for many months. I made a pact with him that he just had to let me know when it got too hard to keep fighting and his suffering took too much of the joy from his life. I believe he did just that. In fact, in each of their cases I felt more than just instinct told me when they were ready to pass with dignity. That's our final, and maybe our most important responsibility. I have no doubt the joy they brought to my life was worth the pain of their loss. I learned something very special about love and commitment from each of them. Like you, I have adopted a new pup from a rescue group that physically reminded me of one of my boys. I know he can't replace one that I lost, but I also know that the last thing my guys would want would be for me to waste all the love I have to give grieving over them. Maybe in his wisdom, God gives us those that need us the most so that their lives will be extra special. Nudging us to open our hearts and homes to new wonderful friends is his way of helping us heal. As I have been through this before, I can only offer that as time passes many of the memories that hurt today eventually bring a smile to you face and warmth to your heart.
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