:wacko:well thats how i still feal most of the time. let me start by telling you all the wonderful ( im a bad speller sorry ) people on this website that myname is regina. i have a daughter shae, who is going to be 4 in march . chris was my boyfriend,and shaes father.we were together for 5 short years.on may 8 2007 he had a heart attack at the age of 31.he had a heart condition for the last 8 years of his life,yet no one, not even the doctors seen this comming. that still dont sound right but oh well.so its been 9 monthes since he passed i have my good days and i still have my melt down days.this is harder then i thought idont really know what i want out of this web site.all i know is that your all very kind people who know exactly what im going through.valintines day hit me way harder then i thougt.instead of going out to our favorite pizza place,i went to a grave to cry.my daughter shae gave me a valentine to give to her dad.i put it in the snow along with a pink rose.it was horrible how could this be happening.we were so happy,planning our future together.it still dont make sence.9 monthes is not a really long time. could i still be in shock.sometimes i think i am and sometimes i dont.im still very confused.anyway the day shae was born is comming up fast real fast.its the first of many with out her dad.its killing me.i cant think about it with out breaking down,let alone plan it with out my best friend.what do i do.? please help i need advice