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SusanK

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  1. Rhonda, you did something wonderful for him. You always taught your daughter to love and respect her father. So often in the acrimony of divorce patents use offspring as weapons. You gave him a beautiful gift. You were more of a wife to him than many women ever are. I am sorry for you loss and your daughter's loss. s.
  2. Kathy, I am so sorry that friends and family did not offer support on the trip to the family gathering. I often encounter people who act a if my husband never lived. I will never understand that. Don't want to. I know four people I can speak reflectively about my husband.. I have a special place in my heart for them. It's Ok to move beyond the people who behave this way. My address book is being rewritten in the months since my husband's death. So many disppointments from people I expected to act differently. And refreshingly some stepped up who I did not expect. Hoping you find some peace. s.
  3. Kathy, teh better place emark and others are just more hurtful. People just don't get it. We are in pain because we no longer enjoy the physical presence of our loved one. The grief is about us> They just don't get it and say insensitive and hurtful things. At times I isolated just to avoid such comments. Wishing you some peace. s.
  4. Deborah, Please don't apologize for posting. You are feeling the raw emotions that we all know too well. Investigating his death? Hmmmm . . maybe you psyche is protecting you from that. The medical establishment is first and foremost a business. They close ranks and manufacture a reason/excuse for any bad outcome. It should NOT be this way, but it is what it is. I wish you the best in whatever you decide. s.
  5. SingleDad, so sorry for your loss. I don't know if it would help you but I just gave into the pain and stopped resisting. Sometimes I am able to string 2 or 3 decent days together. Other times it does not go that well. I hope that your grief gives you a little respite. take care s.
  6. I was enjoying an after dinner coffee at a restauant today. I glanced at my hand and saw my rings. My rings made me feel so sad. I was fighting back the tears and finally went to the ladies room to cry. I always wear my rings and his around my neck when I leave home. My rings have been a comfort, his still is. Wonder why all the sadness today? s.
  7. Yes, I isolate more and more all the time. I am treated differently as a widow--as if it is catching. SOme women "hide" their husbands from me.No danger! Some phone briefly to tell me what I should be doing. Some walk up to me and aske for one or two of his possesions. These are not close friends but people who want an item to they do not have to pay for it. It sucks. No I have not been to an individual couselo. the hospice here hard sells individual counselling. I have little confidence in the organization and would not consider one on one with the. This is ot a good life. s.
  8. KathyG, not silly at all. I turn the channel when the sport news comes on. He was watching the Indians/Yankees playoffs in the hospital before surgery. The Cleveland Indians win seemed like a good sign. Post of Cleveland was losing to Boston and his course had changed. Bt the time the World Series was on he was no longer watching. Sports news here is all about the Cleveland Indians. I have to turn it off as the memories are too strong and I was not a fan. s.
  9. Shhh65, I am so sorry. I wanted to go back and get a do over too but it does not wor that way. I have no advice to give but I wanted to tell you that I am genuinely sorry for your loss. Please keep posting. s
  10. Jackie, I am sorry. For now grief will own you. Try to eat, sleep, breathe. Rest frequently. You will fatigue easily. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Take care s.
  11. Understandable Shelly, maybe finding a supportive ear is a good way to go. I am also of the persuasion that once they boot you from one of the groups at the same organiation it may be uncomfortable to attend another. ALso bouncing from group to group makes finding good support difficult. Good luck with finding support. please post back on pregress. s.
  12. I have had about six dreams of my husband since his death five months ago. I remember each one vividly. Some dreams woke me. All were good dreams and I felt better after. Maybe the psyche just will not let him go. s.
  13. STARKISS, are there other grief support meetings in your area? A different hospice, perhaps? Maybe you can find another group to attend. ope you can find support. s.
  14. leeann, thank you for the reply. As for our question as to why I was asked to leave the ongoing group, there is no valid reason that I can think of. s.
  15. STARKISS, you are kind and loved or will be loved. If you have specific wishes for final arrangements perhaps pre need planning my be a source of comfort for you. Survivors will not have to deal with deatils and your wishes should be respected. Just a little food for thought. s
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