KarenJH

It's this calendar thing. It's now 2005 and I've left him behind even more. My husband died on May, 12, 2004. Every time I turn a calendar page, even every night when I go to bed, I feel the distance getting greater. Thanksgiving and Christmas were difficult, but I had family and friends who made sure I wasn't too alone. But here I am on New Year's Day grieving because I hung up a new calendar. Is nothing normal, will life ever be just day to day stuff again?

HI, I lost my husband and biggest fan last May 12. The holidays have been rough, but today is Jan. 1 and I just keep moving ahead. I wish I could give you a magic remedy, but, I've discovered, there is none. No one knows the depth of pain until this happens to them- I am still stunned. Hang on, it does get better, but it's a slow, difficult process. I write in a journal every night- recently I re-read the last few months. I was surprised to see that I had made progress, things seem slightly calmer, more rational. Hang on- one day at a time. Peace.