SamR

LeeAnn and MariahC, I AM SO GLd to hear other children reacting the same.Your help and support are keeping me somewhat same. I am on antidepressant now and just hoping for the best. I wasw putting my littlest to bed on Monday night and we atarted taling about my Mom birthday soon (which we are celebrating with her). Anyway, I mentioed Almost to myself but she heard "I wonder what PaPa would have done for Mom (it's her 70th)and I just syarted crying. LIfe is hard. I treasure all your support and get great strength to more foward. Many blessing to you SAm

You all make me feel so much better with you support. I am relaxing about MY grief now and will do what I need. I am going to my Dr. just to see if she has any suggestions. My eight year old daughter is having problems too. They were very close. I don't know if she is feeding off my grief (which I try not to show the girls too much - I have 2)or if it is just a tough age to accept such a grown-up concept as dealth and grief. She even empied out her desk drawer to make a memorial drawer for him. He being sad also ads to my saddness. I really try and work her through it. So many thanks to you Leann, Shell, and Midnight Sam

Dear Leann, Shell and Marty: I am so touched and helped tremdously by your responses and links. I feel so much better about how I am feeling. It just seems as if most people expect that I should be "moved on" by now. This site is such a comfort. I think I will go to my regular Dr. first. Has anyone made ti through a year ot two? Will I feel better then? I guess I am focusing too much on ending this feeling and should as Leann said Let the grief was over me" to work through it. Many blessings to you all for your help, Sam

Hi Everyone, It has been 7 1/2 months since my Dad passed away suddenly. I thought I could handle this myself. I thought talking with friends and family would be support enough, but, I still cry almost everyday. It is still physically painful not to be able to see him. Has anyone gone into therapy at this late point? Did it really help? Samantha

Midnight: Give yourself time. My Dad died in August 2007 and I am still a basketcase. During the day I do my things for the house, kids, and Husband. But, at night, when I have time to think I am still so horribly sad and it has been seven months. The world and your friends do go on and you just have to survive each day one at a time. It seems to me that this grief process is a long journey. Try and not be so hard on yourself. Cry, scream, continue to throw things at your husband (but not anything too hard) and allow your mind and body to do what they need to do to grieve. SamR

My Father passed suddenly of a neurological disease called CJD in August 2007. My Mom has already been dating since the 5 month mark. She is very old fashioned and I know hates the lonliness. I am trying my best to support her and not make her feel any worse, but, inside I am so hurt. I feel like I've lost two parents. Are there any ways to help me accept this change and truly be happy for my Mom? SamR