billyanne, Further along inthe book, there's another quote which I have engraved in my mind: "We are still in love. We will be still married, still in love. Therefore we shall still ache. But we are not at all ...seeking the aches for their own sake. The less of them the better, so long as the marriage is preserved. And the more joy there can be in the mariage between dead and living, the better." I know that feeling of suspension, dangling helplessly. Around my neck, I wear Janie's wedding ring on a gold chain. It reminds me to think of what she would want me to do. She was a strong, positive woman. I know she wouldn't want me to give up. Maybe I'm waiting to gather the strength to go on...and while I'm waiting I will use every resource I can find to help me get through this. Writing these messages is one of those resources. So, thank you for responding. Fred