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truckgirl

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  1. HI! My situation is a little different but I am experiencing similar feelings. My mother and I were caregivers for my grandmother for 9 years...it was a 24/7 job. I too feel so alone...I am here for everyone else as they grieve but no one is ever here for me. I have a few people who are very close to me....but I am very private about my feelings and I have a hard time opening up. It seems as though no one I know really understands. Being a caregiver for someone with Alzheimer's Disease is very difficult and it is impossible to be in good mood everytime you change a diaper or give a bath...I have a hard time not regretting the times when I wasn't as kind and positive as I should have been. But...I know my gradnmother felt my love and that is what I try to focus on. Well good luck, I hope that you find what you need to help you grieve!
  2. I don't think you ever forget a connection from having a pet...and I think that is ok! something that helped me grieve over my pets was to put together a scrap book of memories....don't know why but it helped!
  3. have you tried visiting a petting zoo or volunteering at an animal shelter? I have found that through extreme pain if I force myself to move on it actually helps...although it won't bring back your animals it might help you feel better since you would be helping animals again!
  4. I am very sorry to hear of your loss...your dog is now in heaven playing with my dog...i hate it when stuff happens to animals, it doesn't seem fair! every experience I have had with the 24 hour vet has been similar to yours...there is only so much they can do at first...they just have to observe and monitor their condition...with certain injuries they just have to wait... truckgirl
  5. the hardest thing for me to realize was that I can't do it on my own (caregiving for my grandmother)! It was SO difficult to actually let someone from the outside come in and help care for MY grandma! BUT...after nine years of caregiving it was just affecting my family way too much! so...maybe you could have someone come in and help care for your father? good luck! don't forget to take care of yourself!!!!!!!
  6. I feel as though I was grieving over my grandmother's death 9 years before she died....she had alzheimer's disease and I was a caregiver for her for that time...I think that it is good to do the "pre-grief" stuff because it actually does seem to make the actually grieving process a little bit easier. just focus on enjoying your time with your dad as much as you can! focus on his life rather than his death...although he is in bad shape he still can feel your love and presence!
  7. wow...I think I would be feeling the same way! people do the craziest things and you can drive yourself crazy trying to figure out "why"... just try to remember that your mother knows that you love her and that is all that matters....forget all the crazy stupid stuff that goes on and just focus on doing what it is that you need to do in order to grieve for her. good luck!
  8. hello, for whatever reason it seems as though tragedy never happens just once! when I was 13 I lost 3 people who were very close to me...and once again...I lost my grandmother and grandfather within a year of one another... what I try to remind myself of is that my loved one would not want me to be so sad and depressed over their passing...so I try to do whatever I can to keep on going.... mel
  9. wow, what an intense story! thank you for sharing and your family is in my thoughts and prayers!
  10. HELLO SHELLEY, wow...what an intense experience! thanks for the support!
  11. Hello! I have had a few friends who have gotten professional help and who have been hospitalized for grief...they all said that it didn't help as much as they had hoped for! it is a hard thing to determine whether or not that is what you need? Sometimes just taking a vacation can really help...I am getting to the point where I really need to GET AWAY!!!!!! I just want to see the forest trees and relax...it's been since march when my grandmother died and I haven't dealt with her death yet! Good luck!!!
  12. You're braver than I am Butch! I didn't get another dog for YEARS after I lost my doggie! THEN...two years ago I rescued my baby, pepper, a german shep/collie mix. She's about 10 and she was beaten and starving to death...by my ex friend. I hope all is going well with your new baby!
  13. yeah, I celebrated my birthday last week for the first time without my gramma...it sucked...really sucked. I try to be positive but it hurts! I am sorry to hear about the loss of your gramma...unfortunately I know how you feel.
  14. Hello! Sometimes I just want to scream because everything reminds me of my grandmother...I would give anything to be able to see her smile and hug her again! I am sorry that you don't have much support...you have me and a lot of other people here! I have my roommate...she lost her brother 17 years ago and is still grieving...she is a great support to me! Have a great day!
  15. HI Katie! Thanks for the reply, it was good to hear form you! So many people tell me that I have lost so much because I had to grow up so fast...a part of me doesn't feel like I missed out on anything! Has horrible as it was I enjoyed taking care of my grandmother...I just gave her back the love she had always given me! So how do you get through your birthday? I don't share a birthday with my grandma but I share her middle name...it kills me when my friends or mom say my middle name...I just don't want to hear it! MY birthday is Thursday and it'll be my first bday without my granny...although she was mentally gone for years and didn't even know it was my birthday I am still really going to miss her being there! Thanks for the reply Katie, nice to meet you! Mel
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