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kayc

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About kayc

  • Birthday October 7

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  • Your relationship to the individual who died
    spouse
  • Date of Death
    June 19, 2005
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    Eugene OR

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  • Your gender
    Female
  • Location (city, state)
    Oakridge Oregon
  • Interests
    I've led grief groups and am active on another site as well. I volunteer in my church (Deaconess & Praise Team) I help with two diabetic sites and my passion is helping people with grief and diabetes and researching/learning about both. I love walking my dog and spending time with him! I am a retired Office Mgr./Bkpr.

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  1. I don't see you are a failure at anything. Value yourself, sometimes we're all we have. And your brother...is that surprising? No news is good news. Something wrong with him, narcissist?
  2. Haha, my DIL hasn't been here since she dropped her six month old baby here for me to watch, that was over seven years ago. Nope, she just wants to use me. I'm 71, how long does she think I can do this? They live three hours away in a very remote unmarked area where GPS doesn't work. I'm comfortable driving to Eugene over an hour away. I have food, just couldn't go buy fresh produce and creamer, finally did this week. i can always eat carnivore and give up coffee if need be. Only time it'd be a problem is like during the snowpocalypse five years ago when our power was out for over 8 days and cut off from the world, no plows, phones, electricity, etc. That was hell. We survived it. My son came on the middle day, hooked up his generator, for a day, after he left it quit. Refrigeratored food all went bad. Couldn't store food outside and attract wild animals but after I got my coolers I could...ever since I store my coolers on the patio in the winter. There was too much snow to reach the storage room where they were. The weatherman didn't predict it, worse than, they said it'd all be north of Salem, ha! Woke up up 4' 5" overnight! 18 degrees. My Arlie was a trooper. A few months later he was dead, inoperable cancer. I love Chrome. Windows 11 keeps setting default to other browsers, I had it set on 10 but they don't seem to let me keep it, change it every day. I've used AVG for years, it's never once let a virus or malware through. Over 20 years ago I had Norton, it let a virus through, it ate everything literally. My son came home from the service, wiped it clean, reloaded whatever windows they had back then (95? 98?) and set me up with this antivirus, and it's free. I also have AdblockerPlus. We're getting a break in the weather but it'll turn colder within a week, from Canada...hoping/praying I can make my son's 40th bdy party and help my grandson celebrate his 7th, all depends on if it snows within the next 8 days. We'll see. Kodie helps me accept my life as it is so much, I can't believe what a difference he makes. I noticed Panther had two matts on his back last night, had to cut them off, I trimmed a bit at a time as I didn't want to nip him and these were really thick. Weren't there last week. He was really good when I did it, held still for me which is a miracle! Windows 11 isn't an improvement from 10 imo but not horribly worse, I just hate how Microsoft is so invasive and takes over, I really hate them. But they're going to force our hand within two years or stop working so I took the plunge.
  3. I hope you have a great time, even with XW there. I'm supposed to go to my son's 40th bdy 3/24, hoping/praying no snow so I can make it! His dad may be there, I don't know, his uncle usually comes to these things.
  4. I had this yesterday, how can you look up a word when you can't think of it! Keto "bread" is a misnomer, can't have it, we don't advise products. We make everything from scratch. I tried making Keto bread but it spiked me, the Keto guy "The Banting King" threw us totally off! I spent $42 on ingredients I can't use. I made a loaf for the neighbors for Christmas, their dog attacked me viciously! Threw me on the ground, I have horrid scars from it, they still itch. I make what is called Keto 90 second bread, love it! And it doesn't raise my blood sugar (BS). Weird how you and I eat nearly opposite to stay alive. You get old and find out what is going to be your lot in life, what you have to do to stay alive, different for everyone, and some have no restrictions. Lucky them. Some get to keep their husbands, I lost mine at barely 51. Most take theirs for granted, not realizing how their life can change in a moment.
  5. Marg, we seem to eat opposite except I can have spinach. Can you have eggs? Tomatoes? Why would they insist on screws at your age? They're nuts! Plus it costs more. (Hence why they insist).
  6. Sometimes temporary crowns show weird colors, but wth! I would NOT be happy! They shouldn't even have grey on their color palate!
  7. My dentist ordered out the bridge, and they made it badly, the dental office installed it and a year later I was complaining about it (front teeth) and they haggled with the place that made it and had them make another one. so glad! It cost a pretty penny (thousands) and no insurance.
  8. Made the long trek to town to get groceries, took about four hours, an hour of it just getting the groceries. Poured rain, instead of cats and dogs, I'd call it tigers and bears! Not a lot happening here but uneventful sounds good. Snowing here tonight/tomorrow. Can do without that. Karen, I can't believe they may your teeth buck! Should do over again, the bite can't be right. My first bridge was that way, made them redo it a year later.
  9. Hi Karen, I see you online! How are you doing?
  10. I am so sorry for your losses, and that you feel unable to share what you went through and thus what you're going through. I'm glad you have a therapist and hope they will be of immense help to you. Feel free to share here when you feel more able. I am so sorry also for having to surrender your kitty, perhaps it was just too soon. Perhaps this might be of help to you? When is the right time to get a new pet?
  11. I encourage you to open your heart up to your new pet, I went through this with Arlie and I felt slighted on his behalf when anyone said how cute Kodie (my new dog) was...eventually I realized it wasn't a slight to Arlie and I could love Kodie for who HE is. I still love Arlie, I always will. My relationship with Kodie doesn't detract from my relationship with Arlie and the things he brought to the table were unique and will forever be missed, just as what Kodie offers is unique to him. If you aren't ready to scatter the ashes, hold off. There is no time frame. Your husband needs to understand that you may not be as ready as he is and honor that.
  12. Because I shoveled snow for 12 hours and at the end was angry to discover someone had plowed snow into behind my car (it abutted snow in the front so I couldn't leave with my car after they did that) and at the top of my driveway where I had shoveled so the mailman could drive up to the mailbox and back out onto the road. They shoveled someone else's snow (pack) there and it was like trying to move ice, high, and hard. Let me tell you, if they were doing this all by themselves at my age, they'd have been mad too. It was obvious I had shoveled these areas and they messed it up badly. Another hour shoveling I didn't need.
  13. Believe me, I shoveled it off. And I have caught it from so many people, tell me they wouldn't have been too in my shoes. 12 HOURS SHOVELING?! I'd like to see any one of them do that and then face what happened to me, happen to them.
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