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About kayc

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  • Date of Death
    June 19, 2005
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    Eugene OR

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    Oakridge Oregon
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    I lead a grief support group and I enjoy volunteering in my church (Treasurer & on Praise Team, choir) and the senior site, where I do the bingo prizes. I love stamping, hiking, nature, singing. I am a retired Office Mgr./Bkpr.

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  1. IDK, they'll call and let me know the results in about two weeks and then schedule me. Probably when we're getting a snow storm! That's what I've run into aLOT! Same w/my CVS Caremark. Ugh I hate dealing with both companies! My sister is still struggling to get Medicare & supplement to pay for Bert's medical and it's been four months! I've have to stay on her to make the calls. I FINALLY got her to call the bank where Bert's account is to see where her stimulus check went. So glad I kept on her, she got them to transfer it to her account and I told her to leave his open in
  2. Haha, never me! Maybe George will check in today, his only day off...
  3. Yesterday was scary, I went to the dermatologist and she found two possible melanomas & did biopsies so now I have to have a neighbor dress my wounds after I shower, I despise asking for help! It doesn't help I'll have to disrobe for her to do it (on my back). If they're positive it means surgical removals just as it's entering snow time. But the truly scary part was getting groceries. I stood and waited while a lady took her time getting brussells one at a time with a tong, she was in my way, I waited patiently, she moved onto something else and left her car sitting in my way. I ask
  4. I'm sorry. Churches, like any organization, are political in nature. I was always on the church board at the Nazarene Church but after attending Baptist, well, Elders (men) run things. For years I would not help in the kitchen because to me that signified that's all we're good for. George understood & agreed with my sentiment. Now it's ironic I can't wait to be done with the Treasury, and INTO the kitchen where I can mindlessly do some dishes, ha! I'm getting older and my brain is tired. Oh no! I am so sorry, Ana. It was the hardest thing in the world to me to lose Arlie,
  5. I think about 2% of our population here is homeless, so sad! We are NOT a city with resources. We do have some lovely young people heading up feeding them and a shelter if it's cold enough. How sad that freezing isn't cold enough! I see them pushing carts laden with all their earthly belongings, getting old before their time. It's sad that American has so many living like this. When I went to Denmark years ago one of the things that struck me was there WERE no slums! People took so much pride in the looks of their places and unemployment was number one priority, everyone paid their fair
  6. I had a very hard day yesterday, had to work at the church all day making the changes for payroll/taxes since the secretary decided to cut her hours. Since we don't have a payroll module, it's a tremendous amount of work (manually) with a LOT or brain work! Took hours and hours. Got it done, also had her clean out the files. All I have left are the budget meeting, showing her how to enter the new budget in, and I think I'll let my successors write the letters to the bank to add her on and take me off. Need her to sign up for the insurance contact too, will be due next month. We'll have t
  7. This gave me a laugh another I read your next sentence. Baptists are kind of stuck in their ways, I've noticed, that's one thing that's driven me nuts. But I don't think Baptists are any different than anyone else in their ability to sin...no human is any different...some better, some worse but unfortunately bad seeds in any large group. It definitely is NOT in their "belief system" but the problem lies with pretenders, lipsayers, not those who earnestly strive to please God and live for them. I've seen them in all denominations and outside of church as well. I've told you all about my
  8. Beautifully put!!! Kieron, the emoticon didn't display here, not sure if others can see it. I think I expressed my vehemence pretty strongly w/o swearing in my response with Missy, I can't believe the things people say, I'm so sorry she experienced that and wish I could have a word with them!!! I feel protective of grievers, knowing all too well how it feels.
  9. Gwen, you DO have purpose, HERE! I, for one, appreciate you! And you too, Nash! We have our own little support group right here, not only for loss of spouse, but with our daily lives/struggles. We CARE about each other! And it's not like our everyday stuff isn't connected to our loss/grief because we all know how different it would be if THEY were still here! Gwen, I'm sorry you have another day ahead of you of struggle to sort things out...I hate stuff like that and unfortunately, that seems to be our world, now. Peggy and I were just talking about that last night.
  10. Here's another article that might be of help: http://www.griefhealing.com/column-helping-another-in-grief.htm Your feelings are totally "normal" in grief.
  11. I'm glad you are able to express all of this, but you like most of us, wish so much we could change what happened, but we can't. I pray you'll forgive yourself and realize she has already. We are human and don't have the benefit of hindsight ahead of time. (((hugs))) http://media.wix.com/ugd/0dd4a5_e934e7f92d104d31bcb334d6c6d63974.pdfhttps://www.pet-loss.net/guilt.shtmlhttp://www.griefhealing.com/article-loss-and-the-burden-of-guilt.htm https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2019/08/pet-loss-when-guilt-overshadows-grief.html https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2017/07/pet-loss-when-guil
  12. It's not horrible and I hope you can let go of the guilt. We NEED our sleep! If we don't take care of ourselves we can't properly be there for THEM! The same is true for children. I had to learn this early on in life and it is NOT selfish, it's a requirement. My Kodie sleeps in a crate in a back bedroom. During the daytime he has free run of the house, but I NEED my sleep to function! He doesn't have a problem with it, although sometimes I wish I could sleep with him, maybe someday when he's past the puppy stage.
  13. I hear you. It's not as bad for me as the very beginning (it's been 1 1/2 years) but I DO love and miss him each and every day! He is in my thoughts a lot. Getting Kodie helped in that he keeps me company but as we all know, animals don't replace another, they create their own spot in your heart, they are so uniquely different! I love the things Kodie brings to the table, but I'm afraid they broke the mold on Arlie, I will never have a dog like him again with his advanced communication (Husky talk), gentleness, goofiness, devotion, amazing watchdog, loyal, so careful not to pull on me (did
  14. Is there a memory card in it? They used to have those, not sure if all do still, don't know how that works. I know my son can do most anything but getting a minute of his time/attention is the hard part. He's always busy, day/night. I try not to bother him anymore. But I sure do miss him. I miss both of my kids. Exactly. When they have backgrounds we don't know about, all we can do is speculate. Arlie had separation anxiety. He did not appear to have ever been in a house or car when I got him. He was starving when the dog catcher picked him up, he gained 16 lbs in the
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