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  1. They have no kids and she isn't putting her best friend on for the same reasoning as I feel unqualified. She's going to ask a much younger friend that she trusts. They have no children. I have my son as mine but he's super smart and gets things done! They say to ask the busiest person... Oh Kieron, it's hard to believe you'd have a hard time making friends, I'd be your friend in a heartbeat! I read an article on it once that was really good, talked about how sometimes people are friends for a season and when it's time to let it go. Very helpful. I let this person go for multiple re
  2. He passed on Wednesday morning, we ordered cremation and I'm having my neighbor make a special wooden box for him. Peggy is doing as well as can be expected, she hasn't lived alone and she's very disabled but she's proven herself very capable this week. My heart goes out to her as I know what it's like, it's such a shock as it went so fast. It's sent my blood sugar up to 149 this week, the highest it's been in nine months, but today it's back down to 101. I'm having to work at de-stressing. POA is as simple as filling out a form and having a notary witness/sign it. I used to have
  3. I agree with JayJay, but I know that doesn't change your feeling as you do. This is just one of the toughest things to get through. No matter how it goes down, we seem to be masters at beating ourselves up in our grief, it's a process letting go of that. http://www.pet-loss.net/guilt.shtml http://www.griefhealing.com/article-loss-and-the-burden-of-guilt.htm http://media.wix.com/ugd/0dd4a5_e934e7f92d104d31bcb334d6c6d63974.pdf
  4. I never hear from Katie anymore. She's changed her email address so I got my message returned. Funny you mention that as I'd just run across messages with Butch yesterday when I was looking for something.
  5. He passed away Wednesday. She didn't ask me 25 years ago when she set it up, I'd remember. Besides things change, they sure have for me! She says she doesn't trust our brother because of how he handled our mom's estate. That he "stole from it." I told her he didn't "steal" anything, our mom left everything to him! That doesn't make him dishonest. None of us chose to contest it, so let it go already! I can't make it my issue though, but here my BS is up again today 128. Those are good questions for your doctor, Gwen, I hope you get a response soon. Your posting about these
  6. Wow, all of the posts here I can relate to! Dee, I'm sorry yesterday was so hard! Gwen, and you had another trying day! I'm sorry. I just found out my sister put me on as executor of her estate and I do not feel qualified or up to it at all, she's leaving everything to her 9 nieces/nephews, I'm going to suggest our brother do this as 1) he's done it before, 2) he's the youngest and still has an intact brain, 3) he has help 4) Five of the nieces/nephews are his kids who stand to benefit. 5) It's stressing me out and my BS was 130 this morning, the highest it's been in nine months in s
  7. He can obtain some through the obamacare, government health plan, they'll walk him through it and let him know how much it is over the phone. He needn't wait for open enrollment as losing one's health insurance qualifies as a "life event." https://www.healthcare.gov/coverage-outside-open-enrollment/special-enrollment-period/
  8. I am so sorry for your loss! 21 is a long life, but whenever they leave, it's never long enough. (((hugs))) Hoping this brings you some comfort...
  9. I am so sorry! This was an accident, you had no idea, that doesn't make you a bad person. A bad person is someone who intentionally harms an animal. I know I can't talk you out of your feelings though, but I hope you'll read these articles and please know you are not the only one who lost their animal through an accident. I lost my dog many years ago and I feel responsible because I should not have left the back end of the van open, he'd never snuck into it before...I drove to work, left it closed up on a hot day and when I opened the door that night he rolled out into my arms, stiff as a
  10. I am so sorry to hear this Marg! COVID changed so much in how we grieve. We aren't having services for Bert but at some point I'd like for my siblings to get together and share stories, memories of him. I think it'd help Peggy. She didn't even get to view his body.
  11. Good, I'm glad you're setting your sights high and know your own value! You'll be okay.
  12. My BIL Bert passed away this morning. I told Peggy I'd cover his cremation and my sister is going to provide her with a medic alert button. We'll go in and sign the paperwork when they're ready.
  13. Gwen, your day sounds like MY yesterday only on steroids! I'm sorry you had such a hard day, I hate days like that where everything is an uphill battle. I tried placing an order with Walmart on line last night as I have my disabled sister with me when I go to town today so don't want to stop there...it said deliver when I put it in my cart then changed it to me picking it up, which I can't and I''m too far away to come back, kind of defeats the purpose of on line ordering, don't ya think? Tried calling them, got their blasted voice crap that made me want to go ballistic, got hung up on twic
  14. Thinking of you and I'm glad you give yourself the gift of reflection on these momentous occasions. As trying as these times are, they don't interfere with our love and our grief.
  15. Marty put so simply what I was trying to say in a long round-about way! The neighbor's chow gave me my "fix" without having to make such a permanent decision. I love him but am sure glad I didn't adopt him when she offered it because I don't want to be responsible for an animal that won't let me take care of them w/o biting!
  16. She can be but I love her immensely and we're extremely close! I don't know what I'll do when she goes, we talk every day on the phone, we tell each other everything. She's very caring, she just doesn't take care of herself. And of course she has her addictions, which cost me having that last conversation with George before he died as she refused to bring me to him in the hospital because she wanted to stay and gamble (which I don't do, never have).
  17. Yes that is it, and I do have it saved, just couldn't remember what under! Thank you!
  18. I totally sympathize with your pain! I was just as dumbfounded by why my ex could be with his XW, neighbors, friends, but not want me around for support? It'd be easier if we had some decent explanation but to just come out of nowhere and blindside us, that's tough. I only know we can and need to make our own closure and move on with our lives in absence of them. I think you will recover, even if you never fully understand it. We don't have to understand to accept that what is, is; I learned that after my husband died 15 years ago. I certainly wish you the best, I know your feelings all
  19. I would venture to say a 99% chance you will not. I've read and posted in all of the threads here and remember only one out of hundreds that got back together, they weren't apart long and we didn't get a long term report so we have no way of knowing if they lasted past two months. Yes, Kieron, great quote!!
  20. You will be fine, you have a lot of wise insight. I hope you understand you are not responsible for this, anyone can lie to and deceive us. You will take with you all that you have learned and may be extremely cautious going into your next relationship, which is fine, but you know what to look for, so I've no doubt you'll do great.
  21. Tomorrow will be day 5 at the Hospice house and I am taking her in again to see him, she wanted to rest today, she's exhausted, not sleeping. I tried to get her to call her doctor for sleeping pills but she's stubborn. Trying to get her a medic alert button, that's definitely a necessity!
  22. I had always walked my dog and my granddoggy when he lived with me, every day. When Arlie died, I needed to keep walking for my health but it would be a huge trigger without him, so a neighbor asked me to walk her chow, which I did for ten months. It seemed like a good decision, I got very attached to him (he was Arlie's age) but he was nothing like Arlie so I didn't compare, he was not a replacement by any means. It didn't turn out well for me as he caused me severe damage in both hands and now I need surgery...the neighbor lied about his shots and his nature, he chomped on my left hand, c
  23. Gin, I am so sorry. My sister also has dementia but she's not to stage 3 yet. The future scares me, I keep knocking myself back into day, I can't handle tomorrow. Yes, life has no fair about it and it sure does get hard sometimes!
  24. I am so sorry you are going through this. My closest sister's husband of 50 years is also going through this, was just diagnosed a couple of weeks ago and it has already metastasized and they expect him to die this week as he's bleeding internally, they said no more blood transfusions. My sister is disabled (he took care of her) and doesn't drive so he's in a hospice home, which is different than hospice in general...I've dealt with hospice before and they're wonderful and come into the home, but Peggy can't help him up or anything so she chose to have him placed in the hospice home, which i
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