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Hi I’m new to this forum/community. I just recently loss my late husband on 3/6/2021 suddenly. I’ve gone through all
The stages of grief but yet I’m still in that denial / shock yet depression stage . I’ve been keeping myself busy by attending school. The pain is too much I haven’t really cried (grieve ) the way I wanted to because I have to be strong for my daughter and stepson. -Shey
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The "stages of grief" debunked as it was written for terminally ill, not for loss/grief but yes we are often in shock in the early time. I liken it to brain trauma, it takes work/effort to get through this, to build our lives again, right now it's enough just to breathe, eat something healthy, sip some water.
You have children to care for and you're attending school? That's a lot. Keep coming here, post/read, it helps.
I had a hard time finding this, had to look in your activity, did not find in messaging or posts so not sure where this is. If you post to Loss of Spouse section, we'll find it. Hang in there, we're all going through this journey together...
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Thinking of you and hoping you will get to be with your dad and your sister today. Merry Christmas, George!
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Thank you, Arlie has been struggling to heal, have him on special diet, he had vomiting and diarrhea yesterday so took him off food for 24 hours, back on it this morning, waiting to see how he does. He has been such a blessing to me, I'm glad it was me that got to be his mom as I know a lot of people would not go to the lengths I have to help him with his Colitis problems.
I didn't know Shingles could be spread to people, I'd assumed it was secondary from Chicken Pox virus that doesn't leave our body. Did your father have the Shingles vaccination? I know it's not a guarantee, but lessens our odds. I'm sorry for him, it's a painful thing to go through.
This seemed like a Christmas that wasn't, my first one alone without my daughter.-
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Thank you very kindly, bless you, indeed my friends here do not help me as a matter of fact!Do you know I,be tried to help her but her anger is getting the best of her, she has slammed the door told me I son,t have time to talk, as where I live it is not having a heart to heart as I guess you kind people do! I know my Mother would be very sad after all the things a daughter did for her! Anyway God bless you, I know how painful loading a loved one is, and so sorry I can,t be on line as much xxxxAnd god bless KayC all of you xxx
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I'm sorry you haven't gotten the support where you live, I know that's been my experience also. Sometimes I wish all of us here lived close so we could help each other, but it's a help even just having people to pour your heart out to and know you're heard and cared about.
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How do you like my new name? It is due to you and the others that I no longer feel alone, and don't feel lost either.
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I was surprised by it but I was hoping that was why you changed it.
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Hi Kay. I am so sorry to have offended you. it was certainly not my intention, I do think you misunderstood what I was trying to say. I was by no means undermineing anyones grief. on the contrary-what I was trying to get at with the whole ''moving on'' thing all the time from outsiders was that it is subconciously important to them, to feel that we are moving on as their own minds and situation cannot comprehend what we are going through. [in whatever terms that means to the individual-whether in grief or consoling someone grieveing].
anyway. I am sorry. I wont bother you guys again.
sincerest apologies
Anearia
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Hi Kay. I am so sorry to have offended you. it was certainly not my intention, I do think you misunderstood what I was trying to say. I was by no means undermineing anyones grief. on the contrary-what I was trying to get at with the whole ''moving on'' thing all the time from outsiders was that it is subconciously important to them, to feel that we are moving on as their own minds and situation cannot comprehend what we are going through. [in whatever terms that means to the individual-whether in grief or consoling someone grieveing].
anyway. I am sorry. I wont bother you guys again.
sincerest apologies
Anearia
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I am not at all offended, I'm sorry you thought that. Just the words "move on" is enough to strike a chord with me because my George and I were the love of each other's life, we were so close, we didn't ask to be separated through death and you DO hear people say "You need to move on", as if! I will never choose to move on from any of his love or leave him behind or forget him in any manner. To me, the grief journey is about adjusting to our new reality and making our life something livable, that two fold purpose. It's not about moving on from the one we love.
You have not bothered any of us in the least and I certainly hope you don't disappear on us!
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Bad news on my Dog....Dog has advanced Diabeties....Diabeitiac Ketoacidosis.......bottom line for a dog of advanced years they can prolong things but will include monthly treatments and health will deteriorate....I said I wanted dignity for the dog, antibiotics for now,because sugar levels can be signs of something else, and she gave me something for stomach......It is a said day, my research team.......new friend and drinking buddy coming up with alternate feeding methods and elixers.........Crushed up some cipro (antbiotic) and injected via syringe back of mouth.........tow ounces of Boost in syring and back of the mouth....will repeat with Pepto later tonight........If Patches dies, he will die cared for and full...Said day but still hopeful
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It's too soon to think about right now, you've been through so much. I can't tell you how many pets I've lost over the years, it seems it's getting progressively harder, the one I have now I'm the closest to, but I was extremely close to my granddoggy, I took care of him half his life. He was "special", kind of like a Down Syndrome child. I hope it's a longs ways off for you to have to face...
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Bad news on my Dog....Dog has advanced Diabeties....Diabeitiac Ketoacidosis.......bottom line for a dog of advanced years they can prolong things but will include monthly treatments and health will deteriorate....I said I wanted dignity for the dog, antibiotics for now,because sugar levels can be signs of something else, and she gave me something for stomach......It is a said day, my research team.......new friend and drinking buddy coming up with alternate feeding methods and elixers.........Crushed up some cipro (antbiotic) and injected via syringe back of mouth.........tow ounces of Boost in syring and back of the mouth....will repeat with Pepto later tonight........If Patches dies, he will die cared for and full...Said day but still hopeful
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Oh Kevin, I am so sorry. I hope your dog get some good quality time in with you. A friend of mine is having his dog put to sleep on Wednesday, I've been in his dog's life for six years, it's going to be tough. If I was him I wouldn't wait until Wednesday (the only day the vet comes to our town), I'd take her to the next city and have it done now, she's been suffering all week. It's so hard to watch...
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Got about 6 inches of fluffy snow last night.......shovelled my neighbours and half of mine.......back is acting up, took a couple of advils, there will always be more snow....
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Be careful! I went through that last week! I need to learn to pace myself better & take breaks...I tend to push it so I can get done.
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KayC.....truck repairs $4300......what type of repairs?.....Have a safe night, don't over shovel....
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It was my neighbor's truck, I just gave him a ride, it's quite a ways away...first time we couldn't get it, so had to go back. He had 8 injectors and a relay, oil change, etc. for his Dodge Ram.
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Thanks for your encouragement. I did talk to two docs. One told me that I took such good care of him that I probably gave him extra time. It still didn't help. I always think I could have done more. I think his decline was gradual and I did not notice it day to day. Family told me that they never thought he would not last for the last year or two.
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I think if you read through the threads here you'll find you are not alone in your feelings. Feeling guilt, whether deserved or not, seems to be a common grief response. It's important you also acknowledge everything you did do for him and keep it in perspective. Marty has some great links on guilt on this site.
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