Ahna215

I'm knew to this web site. My step-father just passed area recently on June 8, 2005 at 1130pm. My mom is suffering with his loss and absence in her life. I feel so inadequate as what to do to help her. I have not yet had time to grieve for him. My mom gave me his cell phone fo that she could call me day or night if she needed me. Well, these call have been all the time now. I feel so ashamed about how I feel with her calling all the time. She may have a bad day or someone may say something to her and it starts her crying- it gets worse....She'll become hysterical if she can't get a hold of me on this cell phone- I'm to have on my person day and night. I left it on the charger one night as I went to go pick up my daughter and she was so upset with me. She calls me at home a lot. This is not only affecting me, but my oldest son (8yrs old) as well. I don't know what to do or say that will help her with her grief. I tried mentioning talking/ going to a support group that will have people there going through the same grief as she is. She says she doesn't want to talk to strangers and that's why I need to keep this cell phone with me at all times. I have not cried for my step-father yet!! I'm having a hard time coping with this, family ( 3 kids and my dad lives with us), and work. Please, anyone, any advice, words of comfort, anything that will help my mom and I!!!!!! I sent this website to her, in hopes she will see that she is not alone in this. Thanks for listening, Ahna

I'm new to this forum and website, but I don't know who else to turn to! My step-father passed away on June 8, 2005 at 1130pm. I haven't been able to grieve myself, because I've been trying to keep my mom from falling apart. I feel so guilty at times, because she gave me his cell phone and she calls me non-stop day and night. I don't know how to cope with this and help her with the grief she's going through. I've tried mentioning support groups in our Florida area, but she will not talk to strangers. I work at a hospital as an RN and have been counceled many times reguarding how often my mom calls at work. I need some advice and help. I have not been able to take time and cry yet. There never seems to be any time for me to do this with family ( 3 kids and my dad lives with me), work, and my mom calling every 30 to 60 minutes a day at times. I know she needs someone to talk to, especially anyone who has suffered the loss of a spouse . I read some of the topics here and asked that she would just take a look. Any advice on how to help her and what to say/ do will be greatful. She becomes hysterical with grief over the little things---I having difficulty with this. I just want to be a good daughter and get her through this. Please help, Ahna