pinkroses

Grandma Dear… How deeply I miss you Your comforting presence Your giving nature How pretty you looked in blue You didn’t always hear But you always listened Just a phone call away To help me get through a day There are things yet to tell you Things yet for you to see But for reasons unknown Was not any longer meant to be I’ve never known life without you in it Hour by hour, minute by minute What will I do without your prayers And will you still think of me You always cared I’ll not think of you as gone Only further away Until I come to visit you again Where you are now, some day. Love you always, Tammy

I just lost a grandmother, she just turned 93. I'm 40 and have been very close to her all my life, she was more like a mother than a grandmother to me. She died just a week ago of malnutrition, dehydration and complications due to a massive stroke, and not taking her medication. (she quit eating and drinking, etc.). July 2nd I was having an early birthday celebration with her and taking her to the grocery store and to lunch and she was laughing and talking and walking, and doing great. Then suddenly on the 4th she told some friends of hers she wasn't feeling well and she went into the hospital. For the next month 1/2 I saw her go from a healthy-looking lady who looked far younger than her years, to a shriveled up, mumbling, delirious little lady who looked over 100 and was almost unrecognizable. Most of her time in the hospital, and later in the nursing home, she unable to speak and understand what was said. We had to keep our visits short because she would get agitated and cry and try to remove her diapers. Our presence seemed to make things worse. I'm glad I saw her as often as I did and told her I loved her but now all I keep thinking about is the times I didn't call when she was home and alone, or the times I wasn't happy to hear from her, or the times I felt angry with her, and it's killing me. She had a difficult personality so her relationship with everyone in the family was very back and forth. When you got too close she tended to misuse the relationship, so we all experienced our backing off from her. Mine was in the last year. Now I regret it because she's gone. I'm at the part now where relatives are going back home and I'm alone. I have a little boy who is turning 11 today and all I can think of is that his great-grandma's card to him is not in the pile. She never would have missed his birthday. I'm single and have no spouse to talk to, and I have no close friends. I'm very alone in this. I feel lost not being able to pick up the phone and call Grandma like I always used to. I was the closest to her of her 4 granddaughters, and I'm the only one without someone there to help comfort me when I wake up in the night crying. I can't help but feel angry about it. Anybody out there who understands any of this, I'd love to talk.