Gettingthrough79 Posted September 18, 2016 Report Share Posted September 18, 2016 I'm sick of the "you'll get over it, time will pass, take care of you, move on, do what you have to do." Enough is enough. It's aggravating. No one knows what this feels like unless they've been through it. After the wake is over, people move on and the person who's experienced the loss has to keep going through it. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted September 18, 2016 Report Share Posted September 18, 2016 That is true. Others mean well when they say these things, but at the time, we're exhausted, we're thin skinned, we do NOT like platitudes, and yes, enough is enough. We forgive them for not knowing better and we continue through our grief journey... 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted September 19, 2016 Report Share Posted September 19, 2016 And that is why we are wise to surround ourselves with others whose grief experiences are similar to our own ♥ 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seachelle Posted September 24, 2016 Report Share Posted September 24, 2016 It's not that they don't care, it's that there's nothing they can do and they know it. There are no words they can speak that will alleviate your pain long term. They are struggling to be supportive, it's the blind leading the blind. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seachelle Posted September 24, 2016 Report Share Posted September 24, 2016 I would encourage you not to push them away though. If they are trying to be supportive, it means they do care. It may be wise to keep in touch with these friends and acquaintances. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted September 24, 2016 Report Share Posted September 24, 2016 Sometimes, however, when you are new in grief, you can't handle the very inappropriate things people say. It is good at that time to surround yourself with supportive people who DO get it and are there for you. When you are stronger and better able to handle it, you can reconnect with those who say the wrong things...then perhaps you are in a better place to stand up and set them straight, in a gentle yet firm way. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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