Kate2 Posted January 30, 2018 Report Share Posted January 30, 2018 Hi Quiksand I am wondering how you are doing now. You have been through alot of stress being a caregiver and then went right to dealing with grief. I can relate to you. I have taken care of my mom for 5 years. She is my best friend. I have been so lonely watching her decline. As she lost alot of memories, short and long term, I watched my best friend/mom slip away. I have been grieving for 5 years now. My mom is actively dying now. It may be a day or a week. It is so hard to know that I will be all alone. Not only have I lost my best friend, but will lose my purpose in life, as her caregiver. I would give anything to have another year of changing her diapers and feeding her. I miss her so much already. I hope you are doing OK. And I understand your grief and loneliness. My life as a caregiver, excluded me from having any friends or social life. I don’t know what I will do with myself now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted January 30, 2018 Report Share Posted January 30, 2018 @Kate2 I'm sorry about your mother's situation, I'm going through it with my sister. I hear what you are saying, my husband died 12 1/2 years ago and even though my mom and I were 60 miles away from each other (further when she entered the dementia care facility), I could call her or go see her, I miss her more than I can say. It's been 3 1/2 years she's been gone. Being a caregiver and then losing that purpose presents additional challenges of its own, I went through that when I lost my MIL, I took care of her nearly three years when she was bedridden with cancer. It'll take time, but you will discover purpose again, meanwhile it's a hard adjustment, I know. It's good to get out and be around people, maybe church, volunteering, a club, something to meet and be around others. It pushes us out of our comfort zone, I know, I'm working on that because I lost all our friends when my husband died and the new ones I've made have died or moved. Life is a challenge! It's helped me to take one day at a time and live in the present, when I think about the whole "rest of my life" it's overwhelming and increases my anxiety. Good luck to you, feel free to come here any time and share. https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2016/10/in-grief-after-caregiving-ends-who-am-i.html Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kate2 Posted January 31, 2018 Report Share Posted January 31, 2018 Thank you @kayc for your kind words and encouragement. It is so helpful to know others are there who understand the grief. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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