Loss of Sister

[KLR]

I lost my only sibling (my younger sister) 5 months ago. She was my best friend, confidante, supporter, and we lived together. We were as close as sisters can be. She was only 55 years old, and she died suddenly on her birthday from a brain aneurysm. I lost my Mom 10 years ago, and my Dad 2 years ago. So, I now live by myself in the house that we once all shared as a family. I consider myself an orphan. I cannot even describe the pain, and depression that I am feeling. I scream and cry every day. I miss her so much every minute!

[MartyT]

I cannot imagine how lost and alone you must feel, my dear. Some of us are fortunate enough to have a sister with whom we are very close ~ I am one of them, and I know how much my sister means to me ~ and my heart just hurts for you in the magnitude of such a loss. I am so sorry.

Please know that you have found your way to a most caring and compassionate place, and we will be here with you as long as you want us to be.

If you feel up to reading, you may find some of the resources mentioned here to resonate with what you are experiencing now: Is Losing A Grandmother Easier Than Losing A Sister? ♥️

[kayc]

I am so sorry for your loss, that she died on her birthday just seems all the harder.  I lost a sister this year and very nearly lost my closest sister as well and I know it's a matter of time and I'll be going through this again...to have only one sibling and lose them when your parents are already gone must be very hard, like you're all alone in the world.  Did she have any children?  I'm sorry for your feelings of aloneness.  I'm glad you're able to vocalize your feelings, it helps to get it out if nothing else.

[KLR]

1 hour ago, kayc said:

I am so sorry for your loss, that she died on her birthday just seems all the harder.  I lost a sister this year and very nearly lost my closest sister as well and I know it's a matter of time and I'll be going through this again...to have only one sibling and lose them when your parents are already gone must be very hard, like you're all alone in the world.  Did she have any children?  I'm sorry for your feelings of aloneness.  I'm glad you're able to vocalize your feelings, it helps to get it out if nothing else.

Thank You for your kind words, and I am so very sorry for your loss. My sister did not have any children, and neither do I. All of my cousins live out of state, so it's really hard. I just feel like no one understands or can relate, and it seems as though everyone wants you to hurry up, and "Get Over It". It's not a cold. I'm glad I found this web site. I feel comfortable talking with people here.

[KLR]

17 hours ago, MartyT said:

I cannot imagine how lost and alone you must feel, my dear. Some of us are fortunate enough to have a sister with whom we are very close ~ I am one of them, and I know how much my sister means to me ~ and my heart just hurts for you in the magnitude of such a loss. I am so sorry.

Please know that you have found your way to a most caring and compassionate place, and we will be here with you as long as you want us to be.

If you feel up to reading, you may find some of the resources mentioned here to resonate with what you are experiencing now: Is Losing A Grandmother Easier Than Losing A Sister? ♥️

Thank you MartyT. I will check out the articles that you suggested. I already feel comfortable on this web site. No one else seems to understand.

[kayc]

This has been my go to place for over 13 years, when I lost my husband, as no one else seemed to get how I was feeling, I was 52 and didn't know other widows at the time.  Now I know lots of them and have a lot of friends that understand how I feel, but it was very different when I was grappling to deal with my fresh grief.  

A grief counselor can be of help too.

https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2012/10/seeing-specialist-in-grief-counseling.html
 

As well as a grief support group.

https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2010/04/finding-grief-support-that-is-right-for.html

I highly recommend coming to a forum like this to read and post...it's a great supplement as you can come here any time day or night and it helps to know you're not alone in what you're going through.

[Tilley]

I’m really glad I found this forum. My younger sister died June first of cancer. She turned 53 ten days before she died. I’m 55. It’s really hard. She started getting really angry the last few years. She didn’t even know she had cancer until a few months before she died. She had multiple myeloma which cannot affect your brain. She got so angry at me and was so cruel to me that we weren’t speaking for about 6 months before she died.  I have no way of knowing if it was the cancer in her brain or not. No one can tell me. I just can’t believe she’s really dead. I feel like I shouldn’t be allowed to live since she was younger than me. My brother is really messed up and he just keeps yelling at me and insulting everything I do and say. He has always done that.  But I can’t take it anymore. I just called the suicide hotline but there was this annoying jazz music and the woman came on every ten seconds to tell you to hold on. So then I tried the text line and there were 50 people in front of me. 
it’s true what someone said that everyone just wants you to get over it when your grieving. It just seems like no one gets it or cares. 

[kayc]

I am so sorry for the loss of your sister...I lost mine 1 1/2 years ago.  

I had a dog with cancer in the brain and it did cause him to act out of character, so I'm sure the anger was related to the cancer, especially as she saw her life being robbed.  I hope you are able to let go of taking it personally and remember who she was as a whole, over the course of her lifetime instead of just the recent years.  I recently lost (another) dog to cancer and watching him go downhill bit by bit was horrible.  He was suffering so I had him euthanized, the hardest decision I ever made.  I also had a MIL that had cancer, she was bedridden with it for three years and I was her daytime caregiver, my FIL had the night shift.  Watching her go bit by bit was incredibly hard.  I can't imagine this NOT affecting them emotionally, mentally, in every way.

I'm sorry you couldn't get through to the suicide hotline, perhaps you could try a different time of day.  Nights/weekends are the hardest for people so they might be the busiest also.

9 hours ago, Tilley said:

it’s true what someone said that everyone just wants you to get over it when your grieving. It just seems like no one gets it or cares. 

I'm sorry that is your experience.  All of our friends disappeared on me when my husband died.  People said stupid things.  No, they don't get it unless they've been through it and even then grief is as individual as our unique relationships.