Question about things the brain does in grief

[K.D.]

It’s bern five days since my best friend had to leave. Why does anything I do that resembles normal life, anything that feels good, any happiness, basically anything but mourning heavily, feel so wrong and so cruel to my dog? Even just cleaning the house...I feel like Im being cruel and forgetting him and betraying me. 

[MartyT]

My dear, you might try a useful technique known as "dosing" ~ intentionally allowing yourself to experience your grief in "doses" by setting aside a certain amount of time each day to give in totally to your grief. That way, you can allow yourself to attend to household things that need doing, knowing that you can do your mourning when your "crying time" arrives. Read more about this technique here: Finding Crying Time In Grief  ❤️