ling Posted October 2, 2019 Report Share Posted October 2, 2019 I have lots to say and lots emotion. My boyfriend at the time broke up with me after him returning from attending his grandma’s funeral. We’ve been together for 7.5month this just happened five days ago. I spent my time crying and trying to get supports I am still processing When I started to hang out with him, I chose to do what I think at the time was making me the happiest. I chose to spend my free time with him and neglected all of my friends. My closest friend was upset about me coming back and demanding all the support and she called me out for being self centered and selfish I had no one to turn to so I came here to seek advices Backstory- me and him met on a dating app. At the time I wasn’t seeking anyone, I use the app to go on dates to entertain myself and to be able to share the crazy stories that went down or what have you. all of my friends were using the app to hook up, date ,relationships. I was using the app to feel like I belong in my friend group. I went on dates with him and exchanged numbers and just click right away. We understand or were interested in each other’s study fields. And we are both queer and love arts. I thought he come cross at a great timing. He was perfect for me. To clarified, we are exclusive but never really puts labels and refer to others we are partners or boyfriend or girlfriend The relationship grow really fast, and I thought it was fantastic. We are both students, and in the summer we choose to stay and not go home and I thought in the summer we had sealed the bound and make me feel like I am inseparable from him. The weekend before he broke up with me we went to an exhibition and had a great time at the end of that day his family told him that his grandma might not make it till tomorrow and the week day that followed that he texted and said his grandma had died and afterwards he was very distant and wouldn’t respond to my message for a long time or the next day I will get message that said i was busy sorry it’s just really hurt we goes to different school and texting is our way of communicating through the week day and I wanted to give him space to grief and get ready for attending funeral i thought I was being understanding that he was busy the weekend following his grandma’s funeral he came back from home ( where the funeral was at) , and text me that he wanted to talk about something. He came straight from train station to my house and told me that he thinks that we should stop seeing each other. His reason was shitty and still left me in confusion he said something along that line of Our relationship is not progressing enough seeing you once a week is not enough and I still care about you that’s why I have to break up with you and it’s unfair to you he also said that he needs space and time alone to focus on school and family and it’s just getting really hard at school (architecture major ) too stressful I asked him why now ? Why don’t you just said I don’t like you anymore and don’t want to be together with me anymore? He is the kind of person who shutdown when he have a situation or problems He told me it’s because he realized something after he went home. And he got offensive after I said why didn’t he just said because it isn’t true that I don’t like you anymore I still care a lot. He also said feels emotionally distant from me But he was the one that’s pushing me away and he started to cry when the conversation started But he was the one who brought it up and what’s worse is that I found his tinder profile up and running the next morning , i don’t know if he downloaded the app for the same reason I did, distractions to gain confidence. i am just very confused as for why he would push me away when he is hurt? And why would he be up on tinder when he told me he want to be alone to deal with his issue? Or is he blaming on himself or me for not being able to say goodbye to his grandma because he already spent his free time with me? Why is it now ? I don’t know please tell me something I want to understand the logic of this or at least understand where he is coming from so I can try to move on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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