FlGrl823 Posted January 13, 2020 Report Share Posted January 13, 2020 A few months ago I met a man online and had a brief relationship with him (about 4 months) up until his father was diagnosed with lung cancer which had metastasized to his shoulder bone. (They discovered the cancer when doing a scan for his shoulder fracture) Things we’re going really well in our relationship or at least I thought they were. We laughed all the time together, talked on the phone every night when we didn’t see each other (he worked a late shift) and started officially dating a couple months after meeting each other. He spent a lot of time with me and my daughter, I met his friends and he even told me he wanted to take me back home to meet his family (his family lives in a different state than we do). When he found out his Dad had a mass on his lung, things started to change. He seemed rather numb, disinterested in wanting to talk (less texts/calls), less affectionate and we didn’t see each other much. This went on for about 2 weeks. The last time we hung out I could tell something was bothering him. He seemed rather cold and then didn’t call me the next day like he said he would. He sent me a text a day later saying that he doesn’t think he can date someone right now and that he was having a hard time adjusting to me having a kid. And that it wasn’t something he wanted in his life while his Dad is ill. I’m not sure if he was using that as an excuse or not because he got along with my daughter just fine (she will be 4 soon). I sent him a mature response telling him I understand it’s a lot to take on right now, that I don’t have any expectations and I’m here if he needs anything. He ended up sending me another text the next day apologizing and how he appreciates everything I did for him. And that he couldn’t commit full time to a relationship. He also said his mind is thoughtless and he has no motivation to do anything except go to the gym everyday. He then said he wanted to hang out in the future and offered to help pay for a internet service which I let him use freely before. I guess I’m not sure what to think about all of this. I’m trying to be patient— It just hurts a ton. He has maybe texted a couple times for trivial things such as letting me know he sent money for our bill. Other than that I’m left to wonder if he’s moved on and there’s no hope? It’s awful because I care a lot about him and want to be there for him. I know he and his Dad have a complicated relationship which may be why he’s not handling this very well. It also hurts because he reactivated his dating profile on the site we met (I also used this for a little bit in attempt to move on which didn’t work). It’s tough and I’m finding it very difficult to move on. I would like to be there for him, but it seems like he needs his space at the moment. Any advice would help tremendously! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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