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Overwhelmed by all the estate process, and stuck with cleaning out Moms home. I am only child and feel so overwhelmed by every thing that has to be done , paperwork, taxes, cleaning out Mom's house, etc. on top of the episodes of sadness, crying, feeling like my heart is broken, and trying so hard to focus at work. Trying to figure out if I need to see a therapist. Thought I would start here. Thanks for any support. 

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I'm so sorry for your loss, my dear, but pleased that you've found your way here. I hope you will follow through with finding a qualified grief counselor and / or an in-person grief support group to help guide you through this process. (See Finding Grief Support That Is Right For You.)

Meanwhile I encourage you to do some reading about grief, so you'll know what thoughts and feelings are normal and have a better idea of what you might do to manage your own reactions. (See Grief: Understanding The Process.)

Bear in mind that everything need not be done at once, and it helps to slow down a bit and take your time. (See, for example, In Grief: Sifting and Sorting A Loved One's Personal Belongings.)

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I can only imagine how overwhelmed you must feel, I know I would too.  I have a brother and sister to share in all that with, as well as other sisters that are handicapped and couldn't help.  My brother did the most as he had big strapping sons to help with moving things and they lived in the same town as my mom, the rest of us did not.  I hope you have friends that will help you with moving things.  If not wanting to keep the furniture, perhaps take what you want and then have a garage sale and request St. Vinnie's pick up what is left?  They no longer do that where I live but perhaps they do in the cities.

I would definitely see a grief counselor (see Marty's article above) to help you through this maze of grief.  You are dealing with two separate issues, grieving, and settling the estate, the reason for both is the same, but they're different processes.  We didn't have to go through probate and you may not have to either, being an only child.  My friend Jim had to do his mom's estate (also an only child) and it took him about a year to complete, but he's a procrastinator so not sure if it takes others that long.  She had properties to deal with and a rental house he had to fix up and sell so that was part of it.

Try prioritizing and tackling the highest priority first, try not to worry about the other things until that is done, one thing at a time.  I've learned to take a day at a time with grief and life after loss, that has helped me a lot.

I am so sorry for your loss, my mom has been gone for 5 1/2 years now, it feels like yesterday and forever at the same time.  You're welcome to keep coming here as well, I try to come on line here every morning and read/respond.  This place has gotten me through many losses, including my husband 14 1/2 years ago.  

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