Worried about sister

[LimePuddin]

Hello all. I have serious concerns about how my sister is dealing with the loss of our dad. Our dad passed in June of 2017. Now, before he died, her 20 year marriage ended when she discovered her husband cheating. At the same time, their 16 year old dog died. And their home was found to be contaminated with mold. So she already had a lot on her plate. My sister was very close to dad. He was also a Trump supporter (I promise this will all come together). My sister was never politically active. She leaned left. But that was about it. After dad passed, and almost immediately it seems, she became horribly vocal against Trump. Anybody that likes him feels her wrath. Its obsessive. Im im no way saying that she should like Trump lol I just can't see her, that if dad had not passed, calling him the names she calls anybody, including other family members, because he was a supporter. Her grief(imo) manifested itself into this very vocal, and sudden hatred. She still misses dad. She is clearly depressed as she lives by herself. And seldom goes out. My question is, can this all consuming rage be a misdirection of her grief over dad leaving her? I can't stress enough how angry she has become. Almost to the moment of dads death. And if so, how can the fame address it. ( We're not looking for her to vote for him lol. We just want her anger to get controlled) Or are we looking at something not grief related? Thank you 

[MartyT]

For some of us in grief, it's easier to be mad than sad, and oftentimes underneath all the anger and rage is deep sorrow and sadness.

I'm hoping these articles might offer you some insight ~ and note that each one has additional readings listed at its base:

Is Anger One of the Stages of Grief?

In Grief: Acknowledging Jealousy and Anger

Apologizing for Expressing the Anger of Grief

[kayc]

Sometimes in our grief we are not at our best.  Maybe she held back some with her views around your dad, now that he's gone she is letting it all out!  Some of it may also be that she if in an angry state and yes, Trump is her target.  We can't change someone else or how they respond, but it helps to understand that we do have these differences so that we don't expect something different from them.  If her language or content is offensive (not around children, I hope!) then you might point that out to her.  Also don't feel you have to be around her over-much if it's dragging you down.

I like this article:

 

[LimePuddin]

Thank you for your insight. I truly believe that she is depressed. I suffered mild depression years ago. Recognized it. And treated it. (general hostility was a symptom) I feel that my sister has spiraled into a depression of the loss of dad. And that she may be too far removed to see any negative signs. ☹️

[kayc]

I hope you can encourage her to get some professional help...it is hard to dig your way out of a hole by yourself when that hole is too deep to see out of!