Cinderella Posted July 22, 2020 Report Share Posted July 22, 2020 When my father died April of this year, my 23 year old son (J) lost his grandfather. I am struggling with figuring out what my own emotions are; J is struggling with emotions he recognizes but are overwhelming. He is able to cry, but says it is very hard to talk about it. I want to be able to help him, but I don’t know how when I can’t help myself. My 18 year old daughter tells me that she and J are “big kids” and I can’t fix them and I know she is right. But... I don’t know what... I want to help him and it feels like being with him while he cries is nothing, although I know it’s not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted July 22, 2020 Report Share Posted July 22, 2020 1 minute ago, Cinderella said: I want to help him and it feels like being with him while he cries is nothing, although I know it’s not. You're right, my dear ~ while it may feel like nothing, being with your son in his pain and sadness is one of the most loving things you can do ~ for both of you. I'm hoping this might give you some insight too: How We Mourn: Understanding Our Differences 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted July 22, 2020 Report Share Posted July 22, 2020 My heart goes out to you and your son...this article may be of some tangible help to you: http://www.griefhealing.com/column-helping-another-in-grief.htm Understanding we can't fix this, most of the things people say to grievers aren't helpful, BUT we can "be there," listen, and care. That does mean a lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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