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Yesterday, our beautiful 5 month old puppy passed away after getting hit by a car. We got him when he was 8 weeks old. We only had him for 3 months, but we loved that puppy SO much. He was the sweetest, cutest, cleverest little corgi we could’ve ever asked for. To us he was perfect & we know he had such a long full life left to live. What kills me the most is that I feel it was completely preventable. My boyfriend was loading up some things in the car. I go out there & see the dog with him with no leash. I was always getting on my boyfriend about letting him be outside without a leash but my boyfriend was always so lackadaisical about it. He said it would be fine, but I told him no, we need to put a leash on him. We go to put the leash on & the dog thinks we’re playing, he zoomed off into the street & that’s when it happened. Thankfully the woman in the car stopped & got out & drove us to the vet but it was already too late. I keep telling my boyfriend I wish it was me that got hit by the car, not our sweet baby. I tell him I don’t fear death anymore because I know that when it’s my time, I will see Dante again. I feel so much guilt, but I don’t know what else I could have done. I am really struggling with not being angry with and blaming my boyfriend for all of this. I don’t want him to live with the guilt. 

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OMG, I am so sorry!  To see this happen, it must be the most horrific thing in the world.  Yes, you will be with Dante again.  I will post some articles about grief/guilt with our animals.

Corgis are very special to me, it is the dog my son had recommended to me as very smart, good dogs, I'd looked for a corgi but they're hard to find here so he found a Klee Kai and brought him to me.

How is your BF feeling about this?

http://media.wix.com/ugd/0dd4a5_e934e7f92d104d31bcb334d6c6d63974.pdf
https://www.pet-loss.net/guilt.shtml
http://www.griefhealing.com/article-loss-and-the-burden-of-guilt.htm
https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2019/08/pet-loss-when-guilt-overshadows-grief.html
https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2017/07/pet-loss-when-guilt-goes-unresolved.html

http://www.griefhealingblog.com/2016/10/pet-loss-curious-cats-get-killed-in.html

It can help to memorialize them in some way.  I wrote memories of my Arlie and of my Kitty when they passed, it helped, so they would not be forgotten.

https://www.griefhealingdiscussiongroups.com/topic/11930-memories-of-arlie/

https://www.griefhealingdiscussiongroups.com/topic/12222-memories-of-kitty/

https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2013/03/memorializing-pets-we-have-lost.html
http://www.griefhealing.com/memorializing.htm

I hope this short video brings you and your BF comforting thoughts and peace as it has me:

 

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I am so sorry.  It can take much time to process and adjust to this, I hope you will read the articles I posted, maybe one a day if too many?

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