Whiteswan Posted July 13, 2006 Report Share Posted July 13, 2006 Here is a long story that I am going to try to make short as possible: A "friend " of mine has shown her true colors so to speak a few times in the past but I forgave her and let her back into my life. She came over recently and proceeded to tell my son (7, nearly 8 yrs old) what to do and what not to do and I was right there! She kept correcting his behaviour , told him while we were out that if he didn't behave he could go sit in her car, embarrassed him in front of a waitress for what she thought was rude behavior of his, etc, etc.(I didn't see a really big problem with his behaviour-- he was being a normal 7 yr old boy and the few times he got out of line I corrected him and she kept correcting him after I did, and at other times when his behaviour was not a problem!) Now, this woman has "taken over" so to speak in the past -ie- when my Mom was still alive this woman babysat my son one day as there was no daycare that day and I had to work. My son and I lived with my Mom and it is my Mom's house. This woman decided that she would change the kitty litter boxes, do the laundry and get onto my computer and change everything around on it . My Mom told her that she didn't want her to do any of those things, to just watch my son and play with him as my Mom was not feeling well. (That is the only reason I got this woman to babysit-- my Mom was ill and wasn't up to it). Well, this woman proceeded to overstep my Mom's boundaries and went ahead and did the laundry (broke the dryer in the process to the tune of $285.00 to fix it!), plugged the bathtub with kitty litter (liquid plumber solved that), and messed around changing all kinds of stuff on my computer! My Mom didn't have the strength to argue with her so just shut herself in her bedroom and told me when I got home that she felt violated , treated like nothing by this woman, etc. I then chose not to have further contact with this woman for quite awhile but she kept calling so I decided to forgive her. DUMB,DUMB,DUMB!!! She totally violated my authority as a parent the other day and I emailed her later and politely told her how I felt about that and that I would appreciate it if she did not tell my son what to do , etc as I am the one who should be doing that. I said it in a really nice way and told her that my own Mom never over rode my parental authority and she lived right with my son and I. WELL, I got this email back from this woman telling me that she overextended her boudaries and went out with my son and I as she saw we needed that even though she was tired and in pain(meanwhile she NEVER mentioned any pain that night , only said at the end of the visit that she had to get home to let her dog out), that she is too old to get into parental issues with me and that she treated us wonderfully and doesn't know what I am talking about, that she treats us the same way she does everyone and gives us her best so if that isn't good enough to find other friends who share my perspective, AND the real stab was "I am not like your mother" (a shot because I mentioned my Mom never overstepping my parental boundaries and she lived right in the same house. This woman knows my Mom and I were very close and that I am devastated by my Mom's death!) She is not close to her Mom or her entire family as they have sort of pushed her away indicating that she is a trouble maker so I think she is jealous that I was so close to my Mom. I felt totally attacked by her email and have decided that is it! "Friendship" OVER!!!! Does she sound diabolical to anyone else? I would appreciate any insights , thoughts, etc. Thanks all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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