Do You Still Connect with Your Soulmate?

[Sad_Widower]

I’m curious how many of you feel that your loved one is “watching“ you?
My wife and I both believed in the concept of souls, and soulmates.  We often talked about how we would communicate should one of us pass first. In fact she used to always tease me and say “I’m going to haunt you” (as in if I did anything she did not approve of) and to a degree I feel there are times she has in her own way. 
So yes, I absolutely have no doubt in my mind my wife is able to some how “tune in” to things that are transpiring (to what degree I obviously have no idea) so I have worked diligently to ensure I try and make her proud.  
When she was alive I was one of those husbands who really wanted to make her proud of me, and I feel I still need to so.  While I feel we both strived to live righteous lives, I have no problem saying she was much more morally intact than I…and from that I learned a lot from her.  
I light candles for her often, and I pray her spirit is attracted to the flame which was lit via the purest love imaginable, and that it will aid her in knowing she is always remembered and loved.  
I dunno.  Perhaps it is easier for me to focus on the love I have for her (which I truly do) instead of the intense pain of missing her.  
 

[Boho-Soul]

1 hour ago, Sad_Widower said:

I’m curious how many of you feel that your loved one is “watching“ you?

I use to feel Michael was watching me early on, like when my hot water tank stopped working 3 months after he died. I had to decide whether to get a new tank or a tankless water heater, and then do I buy or rent? It was strange making the decision on my own, it felt like he was observing to see what I was going to do. Then later that day I was wanting him to come home from work so I could show him the new tankless heater I decided to rent. I don’t feel his presence now though, which feels strange. It’s like the shock of his traumatic death has affected my connection with him 🤷🏻‍♀️

 I’m glad you’re able to focus on the love you have for your late wife 💗

[nashreed]

If I still felt Annette's presence, I probably wouldn't need to even post here. I don't feel it at all. She's far, far away in Heaven. I have only ever been sure of that one thing. 

Within the first week after she passed, I had two occurrences happen (I think I posted them here before) that were unusual enough for me to think that she had caused them. After moving back to California, I thought there were a couple of "signs" from her. I walk around a basketball court behind the mobile park office and talk to her. The same place I used to pace around when I was a teenager, trying to figure out how to get her to like me. It's the only area that has any grass at all in the area. Once and only once, I saw a bunny. We used to have them in our yard in Tulsa. I'm out there every morning, and have only ever seen it once. 

Christmas Eve 2020, I had a very vivid dream that was more than a dream. I really believe she was able to visit me, just briefly. She said "Hey Baby" like she always did and gave me a huge hug I really felt. It was so real. After that .... nothing. I don't ever even dream of her now. It's like my brain is afraid to go there. I miss her so much and I really hate that I'm stuck having to live this sad existence until I can be with her. Why do I have to wait? It's not fair. 

[kayc]

I like to think he is aware of what is going on, but I don't know that he does.  I've heard that it's hard for them to give us signs, the veil between the two worlds is so strong.  Butt one time he did cross, my anxiety was through the roof after a scare with soc. sec., I felt his hand on my shoulder/back area, I instantly felt calm peace.  It carried me through the three day weekend until I could get my true answer.

[MartyT]

17 hours ago, Sad_Widower said:

I’m curious how many of you feel that your loved one is “watching“ you?

One of my favorite resources is the writing and research of grief expert and author Dr. Louis LaGrand. Although he left this earthly world in 2019, Dr. LaGrand's written works live after him ~ and he has written extensively on what he calls Extraordinary Experiences of the Bereaved.

A list of his helpful articles can be found here: Resources ~ once there, scroll down the page to see links to his writings. See especially Ask For A Visitation Dream When You Are Mourning

See also "Am I Going Mad? Mystical Experiences in Grief   ❤️

And there is this:

 

[razorclam]

Well...I recently had a string of occurrences that were impossibly coincidental. My soul mate was European. Days after his third deathaversary, I received a message from his brother, who had ghosted me two years ago after a brief period of correspondence. We resumed our electronic contact, articulating the hope of meeting in person someday. Days later, I received, and accepted, an invitation to speak at a conference in his city. The venue turned out to be literally in the back yard of their childhood home (open space in their youth, that was built up in their young adult years). So,  alot going on there...we joked that my soul mate, his brother, was keeping busy in the otherworld.

[scba]

2 hours ago, razorclam said:

Well...I recently had a string of occurrences that were impossibly coincidental. My soul mate was European. Days after his third deathaversary, I received a message from his brother, who had ghosted me two years ago after a brief period of correspondence. We resumed our electronic contact, articulating the hope of meeting in person someday. Days later, I received, and accepted, an invitation to speak at a conference in his city. The venue turned out to be literally in the back yard of their childhood home (open space in their youth, that was built up in their young adult years). So,  alot going on there...we joked that my soul mate, his brother, was keeping busy in the otherworld.

Recently I have had a similar experience about going to a place which my BF's sibling was visiting too. And I have too lost contact with him. Amazing. 

[Capricorn1]

Oh my, the signs, synchronicities, validations, and dream visits.  Stephen is a great communicator.  They're no longer in the physical, but they sure are still right here.

Focusing on the love is huge.  Keep that focus.  She's not watching you every second of the day (she's busy too), but she sees you.  💗

Hugs,

Shirley

[V. R.]

I have mixed feelings about this. I've always been skeptical but recently I did have  a significant experience. I was in the laundry room, loading my washing machine when I suddenly had one of my 'grief fits/attacks'. I broke down, crying out at my husband: 'Where are you? Where are you? ". I looked up and the light bulb flickered, I cried out again and another flicker. I stopped for a while to see if it was just a defect, and it   stopped flickering. Maybe just a coincidence, I don't know. At times, I think to myself there is nothingness when you die, just don't exist anymore, but on the other hand, I think:" But you can't just disappear into thin air, you were here, a real person, I am what I am, where I am, thanks to you, my children are here thanks to you, this house exists thanks to you, you must be somewhere out there, in some form or other. I dream about him at times, I think I already talked about the dream where he'd come back, saying it was all a big mistake, hugging each other and crying, him saying so sorry he had caused such pain and suffering for nothing. This is because I often spend my time 'daydreaming' this sort of situation. Lately, I'm really having a tough time, coming to the realisation that this is what the rest of my life will be like, this torture and torment of not understanding "Why?", I've come to the conclusion that to get through this, I have two choices to maintain my sanity as much as possible. 1. I will have to pretend I'm someone else, that person  I was before has gone, because that person cannot exist without my other half.   2. I will imagine this is all a fake, and that my beloved soulmate is actually still here, we just can't see him, for some reason he has become invisible. 

I know, I've just made  two absolutely ridiculous statements, I just wanted to share this with you here, can't say this to my family, it would upset my kids too much, and others would just say the usual 'life goes on' and 'be strong'. Ok, well I thought I was strong, I'm not. In conclusion, in my own way, I do always feel my beloved all around me, I always will. 

 

 

 

 

 

[kayc]

We can explain it away or accept it, either way it doesn't negate or change it.  It's do we believe or not?

[Sad_Widower]

Thank you for everyone’s responses. I have found them very informative and it has helped me a lot!