Bebekat Posted April 13, 2007 Report Share Posted April 13, 2007 Walt,I will keep you in my thoughts tomorrow. I hope you can find some joy in your memories. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ustwo Posted April 13, 2007 Report Share Posted April 13, 2007 WaltC, know that you are in my thoughts and prayers as today passes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted April 13, 2007 Report Share Posted April 13, 2007 Walt,I am thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers today as you make it through another anniversary of your wife's death. It is hard...I took my mom out last night and she was having a hard time...it was the 25th anv. of my dad's death...and this week marks 25 years since his funeral, on my sister's birthday. We never forget. But your wife still shares your memories, she is just unable to talk with you about them right now, but rest assured, she will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WaltC Posted May 28, 2007 Author Report Share Posted May 28, 2007 (edited) Happy Memorial Day to my friends in USA. I know that sometimes it is so hard to be "Happy" or hear/see those words in our time of grief. But as Martha Hickman reminds us:"if we had no one we loved enough to mourn for, how flat, how terrible, our lives would be."and regarding our loved one"what would our life had been without this one whom we loved so much? Was it worth the pain we are experiencing to have this loved one for the time that we did?"My answer is YESAs Martha concludes:"I will try to surround myself with the memory of love." Thank You Jeannie for over 40 years of truly "happy" memories. Edited May 28, 2007 by WaltC Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LarrysGirl Posted May 28, 2007 Report Share Posted May 28, 2007 I am so grateful to have been loved by Larry and the most wonderful time in my life ~ loving him ~!! Hello to you WaltC, hope you are well and always appreciate your messages. I always learn something from you, thank you. Deborah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted May 29, 2007 Report Share Posted May 29, 2007 Walt, thank you for sharing that, it helps us look at it differently. Martha Hickman seems a wise woman! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WaltC Posted June 2, 2007 Author Report Share Posted June 2, 2007 It's a beautiful sunny spring day here in New Brunswick, Canada. It will be a good day to visit Jeannie and her companion butterflies at the cemetary. There I will no doubt see some of the "locals" walking their dogs, enjoying the peacefullness that is found there. (I have yet to see any cats visiting, but I guess that's just how cats are.) As I read my well used copy of Healing After Loss by Martha Hickman I try to follow her advice:"If we find ourselves repeatedly dwelling for a long time on how bad we feel, we might try instead to dwell on some of the joys that fly "as winged dreams" - wonderful times we have shared with our loved one."This is not a simple task, but after almost 26 months it does get a little easier. Please believe me, give it a try!When I read about "winged dreams" I recall one of Jeannie's favorite songs - she was indeed the "wind beneath my wings" and her spirit/memory still is today.Wind Beneath My WingsAs Martha writes:"We do have some control over how long we let our attention linger. So let's not allow the joyous subjects to get away too soon. We need them."I just don't know how I could have survived this long without the beautiful memories of Jeannie, or without the support of friends here who understand this journey. Thanks Jeannie - Thanks Friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted June 2, 2007 Report Share Posted June 2, 2007 Dear, sweet Walt ~ I am so grateful that you have been and continue to be such an important part of the very special group of people on this site. Together we are so much stronger than each of us would be alone. What would we do without you? I hope you know how dearly you are loved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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