STARKISS Posted April 30, 2007 Report Share Posted April 30, 2007 Hi All,I think that family traditions are very important but since my parents died we really have not stuck to any from the past... But now my sister and I have started one that I think my parents would happy with... For the last two years we have gone to Cananda's Wonderland with my sister's three kids and spent the day doing what the kids want to do and acting like kids ourselves... My mom really liked the amusement parks when she was younger so I think she would be happy we started this... Take care Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoriS. Posted April 30, 2007 Report Share Posted April 30, 2007 Shelly, that sounds like fun. I believe that our parents would definately want to know that we are keeping up with traditions and making our own traditions as well. It's a two edge sword...grieving and having fun. I think it's just our new "normal" and sometimes we just don't want to have fun because the grief is overwhelming. I think that it's trying to find that balance that becomes a struggle with some days easier than others. I'm glad that you had fun with your sister and her kids!Take care...Lori Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lorikelly Posted April 30, 2007 Report Share Posted April 30, 2007 Shelley I am so glad that you had a good time. You deserve it!!!! Anything that we can do that helps ease the pain is good. i hope you do more things like this. take care lori Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted May 1, 2007 Author Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Hi LoriS and Lorikelly, Thank you both for your reply, It good I suppose when you do something away from the pain but I do feel guilty when having fun... Take care Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoriS. Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Hi Shelly, I know it's hard to do something for yourself because we feel like we're betraying the people that we're grieving for. I went through that and with time, I was able to learn how to have more of a balance. Also, Marty has a wonderful article regarding betrayel and how we feel like we're betraying our loved one if we move on. It helped me out so much and I have often re-read it when I needed to.Take care...Lori Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted May 1, 2007 Author Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Hi LoriS,Thank you for your reply, I will definitely read it.... Take care Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoriS. Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 I think the name of the article is Disloyalty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted May 1, 2007 Author Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Thank you LoriS,Thank you for taking the time to come back and for replying the name of the article.. Take care Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted October 12, 2007 Author Report Share Posted October 12, 2007 Hi All,When all these holidays do come up I often think of what my mom did and how she did it... I think this year I am going to try hard and make Christmas a little like it was when she used to have it at her house... Take care Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shell Posted October 15, 2007 Report Share Posted October 15, 2007 Shelley,I think that's a great idea. They are always "with" us, so we should just do what we always did, I guess. It can bring sadness, but joy too.Hugs,Shell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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