Lost My 18yo Son In Car Accident 17-06-07

[talkingdreams]

Hi,

My name is Julie.

On 17th June 2007 I lost my lovely 18 yo son in a car accident.

He was the driver and only had his car licsense for a couple of months.

My mum also passed away 1st August 2007.

I feel okay about my mum as she was 90. But the grief of losing my son Garth is still unbearable.

I am terribly sad and cry everyday. Its like living a nightmare I cant wake up from. I still have difficulty accepting he is gone.

I am a single parent & I have a 12 year old daughter.

I know its hard to see her mum so unhappy but I cant help it.

I still remember that early morning phone call. Apparently he was already gone by the time the ambulance arrived.

He was my baby boy and had all his life to live. He was only just starting to make his way on his own.

Its hard for me to find any joy in life. I hope I start to feel better soon as Garth would not want me to be like this for ever but for now my grief is so raw.

I love him so much.

Looking for some emotional support - I feel so alone right now

Ive attached a picture of Garth with his dog Madge who he loved alot

[Deonna]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, how tragic. I can't imagine the grief in losing a child. I wish I could find words to heal you, but I can't. I will say know he is with you and watching over you. He would want you to take care of his little sister and yourself the best you can right now. Hopefully you can find a local support group, and talk to other's whom have lost children as well. I think talking about it helps in the grieving process, I will keep you in my prayers...god bless, Dee

[Dolores (forever Sean's Mom)]

Julie:

So sorry for the loss of your son. I lost my Sean March 5, 2007 due to a motorcycle accident. He was 18 yrs old. He was my only child. I wish I could say something to make you feel better. My son has been gone a little over 5 months and it seems like yesterday. The fact you are a single mom would be hard, my husband and I grieve different. Like you I feel so alone.

I will say I'm coping better, I still have my days. I found it necessary to take some medicine to get me through. I hate it, but couldn't handle it on my own. Sean was in college and worked at Krogers. He was getting a promotion at work. I will miss all the dreams we had for his future, as I'm sure you will with Garth. I still don't know if it would have been better for me if i had a another child or not. I don't think I could be there for them. But you must continue to try for your daughter's sake. Think of it this way you still have a piece of you that will live on. I hate the fact when i leave this earth there will never be a piece of me to go on. You have that. Cherish it! I know how hard it is for you. No one should have to suffer a loss of a child. Its been over 5 months and I hate it that I'm used to him not coming through the door. Sean would want me and his dad to go on, but it will take alot more time I'm afraid. I will be praying for you. Believe me without it i would have never had made this far. If you want to write back and tell me about Garth please do so. It helps to tell people about them.

Dolores (forever Sean's Mom)

[lorikelly]

I am so sorry but heart goes out to you. i will be praying for you. Lori

[talkingdreams]

My beautiful son Garth is my youngest son.

He had only had his car license a couple of months.

I helped him get his car and he was quite proud of it.

He was enjoying having his new found freedom.

Garth was a typical 18 yo.

He loved playing footy & being with his mates and his 2 older brothers.

He was planning to go up to the Northern Territory this September to connect with his Fathers family and do some fishing and hunting.

(His Dad died suddenly when he was 6 yo.)

He loved his dog Madge who was in his car when he had the accident.

Thankfully she was okay and Garth's brother Tim now has her.

Garth was only beginning to start life on his own.

He was a good boy.

We were very close.

I used to watch him play footy every Saturday.

The last time I saw Garth alive was after the his footy game on the Saturday arvo before the accident on Sunday 17th June 2007.

He showed me he had a few minor injuries.

And mentioned he could be in the running for the "best & Fairest" medal.

I asked him what he would be up to that night & he said he would be hanging out with his mates.

I love my son very much & I wish he was still here with us.

Since Garths passing I have lost my mum and now my brotherinlaw just last week.

Im planning to take my daughter who is 12 on a short holiday in a few weeks.

She deserves some fun, and maybe the change will help.

In the meantime not a day goes by that I dont think about Garth & grieve for him.

Apparently he died almost instantly from Head Injuries.

We were at the scene while they were removing his body. The crash site was an awful mess. Bits of his car stewn all over.

Its still such a shock

We buried Garth on 22nd JUne 2007.

Bye for Now

[waabzy]

Hi Julie. I am so sorry for your loss.

I lost my twin sons in a car wreck when they were 11.5 months old in 1970. I too felt that there was nothing left for me to live for. Even when the doctors told me in hospital that I was pregnant I didn't think I could go on.

Being a single parent ( as I was at that time ) is different. Many spouses will say they grieve differently but as a single parent you feel like you have no one to share your grief.

Know I do.

I found going to Compassionate Friends meetings especially in the first few years helped me tremendously. All people in attendance lost a child.

I will remember you in my prayers.