Gail_R Posted November 10, 2007 Report Share Posted November 10, 2007 hi Guy's feeling much better these last few day's. Head feels a little clearer, heart not hurting as much. Maybe there are better day's a head that would be a welcome relief. Got some house work done yesterday and went to my mom and dad's for supper last night. Today going to take the car for an oil change and maybe do a little shopping. Derek give me some sizes and maybe I could do your shopping for you LOL. You sound so much like Bruce when I read your last posting it made me laugh. I could just see him in the store trying to find the right size getting frustated and leaving the store with NO PANTS. You men are all alike. Thanks guy's for being there for me these last few weeks as they have been some of the darkest in a very long time. Gail Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dpodesta Posted November 10, 2007 Report Share Posted November 10, 2007 I usually don't have a problem with sizes, in fact I even knew my wife's size when I would go shopping for her for Christmas. The problem I am facing is that Carson is in-between mens and boys. He needs between a 20 and 22 in boys size. I think that the boys size 22 comes to about a 30 in a mens size. I am glad that you are having a good day today, there will be more of them.Love alwaysDerek Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gail_R Posted November 10, 2007 Author Report Share Posted November 10, 2007 Hi Derek it's been quite a long time since I have bought clothes for boy's . So with that said I thought the boy's sizes just went to size 16-18. Mu boy's are not boy's but growing men one is alsmost 30 and the other one is 27. Yes the day's getting a bit better at lest they are more good ones of late. Thank god don'e think that I could go on like that for much longer. Good luck finding pants. Gail Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dpodesta Posted November 10, 2007 Report Share Posted November 10, 2007 They go up to size 20 Ithink after that it becomes mens sizes. I had a pair yesterday that said size 14 and then had another size below that that was either 32 or 33 I don't remember which. So at that point I guess taht is where the sizes go to. I am not worried about length, I had that problem last year and I just hemmed the pants myself.Love alwaysDerek Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WendyJ Posted November 10, 2007 Report Share Posted November 10, 2007 Gail I am so glad you are felling alittle better and getting some things done. Don't forget when you take it for an oil change if you live where it gets cold to have them winterize your car too, just a thought. So since you got your house cleaning done you want to come help me with mine ? LOL I just can't get motivated today! Love,Wendy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gail_R Posted November 10, 2007 Author Report Share Posted November 10, 2007 Wendy sure come and get me. I'm not much of a winter driver,Bruce did all that so I guess John my youngest son that still lives with me get that job again this winter. Bruce got himself a Charger 2006 the year before he passed away was his dream car he had one when he was a teenager so when they came out with themagain in 06 he got his sooooo happy that he got to drive it for one year. So with that said it will be parked for the winter. Way to fast for me in all the snow that we get here. Wendy hope that your day gets better. keep me posted OK friend.... Gail Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WendyJ Posted November 10, 2007 Report Share Posted November 10, 2007 Hey Gail,I am so glad your husband got his Charger before he passed, that is just like my husband with his motorcylce I got him a few years ago that he wanted so badly. I am so glad he had that to ride too. Well I didn't get anything done I fell asleep ! Hopefully now with a cup of coffee I will get some laundy done but we'll see, so when you come down can you bring some laundry detergent too ? LOL DId I ever tell you I was up in Canada in 1967 when I was little for Expo 67 ? What a fun experience that was, especially loved the mounties as I was big time into horses !Love,Wendy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gail_R Posted November 10, 2007 Author Report Share Posted November 10, 2007 Wendy sorry if already asked this but how old was your huband? Bruce was 53 and that was much to young to have died. Must be the weather as I was also tried today. Went to bed this afternoon and did some reading. Not sure if you live in a small town or a large city. I live out in the country on our farm, it is beautiful. Bruce and I bought this place just before we got married 31 years ago have done a ton of work on the place and it is looking not to bad. So Wendy have you been these last days are things getting a bit better for you. Things have going not to bad for me these last few days one day at a time.Who knows what tomorrow will bring. Have yourself a good evening. Gail Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted November 12, 2007 Report Share Posted November 12, 2007 Sears used to have a Boy's Husky that was a little bigger, they probably still do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WendyJ Posted November 13, 2007 Report Share Posted November 13, 2007 Hello Gail,Steve was just 52 yrs old and died of a blood clot that we did not know he had that traveled to his heart. Here one minute, gone the next. It was such a shock. As much as I wouldn't have wanted him to have something that would have made him suffer for awhile at least that way you have time to prepare yourself even though the outcome is still tragic. I am sorry also as I don't remember how your husband died. Marty is there someplace here where we can all write a short diary on who we lost and how so that we may all go and refer back to it and refresh ourselves as far as names, dates etc ? I am still feeling quite poopy, just feel very blah and down the last week. Just no motivation, no speed at work to get things done, just kinda existing. I live out in the country like you, always wanted to live on a farm, although with 6 dogs and fish and a couple birds people think I have a zoo ! I live in Northwestern New Jersey, where are you?Love,Wendy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gail_R Posted November 13, 2007 Author Report Share Posted November 13, 2007 Wendy Bruce very suddenly also. Like your husband here one minute and gone the next. We where curling with our kids and he went outside to the truck to get my hair clip and then the next time I saw him he was gone that was maybe 1-2 minutes later. Doctor told the kids and I that his artery to his heart was blocked and that was something we had know ideal about. They were always checking him for cancer because that is what his parents both died of so heart was not something that they ever look at. We where told that if that had have known then it could have been fixed and he would still be here with us as they say to little to late. You asked where I live in the country on a farm in Ontario Canada. I'm not sure if you know our country but I live about 3 hour from Toronto if that is of any help. As for good day's they are getting better but today for one of the bad ones. Not sure why just started thinking about Bruce and had myself a little cry. Hope that your day's are getting a little better. It's nice to have a friend that I can talk to about this. Thanks Wendy for being there. Gail Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WendyJ Posted November 13, 2007 Report Share Posted November 13, 2007 Gail,What is wrong with me? I know you are from Canada why did I ask you that? One of my last posts I told you that I went to Canada in 1967 to the Expo. Man is my brain fried ? Also one of my Japanese Chins is from Alberta Canada. I am still having a bad day too Gail, not as bad as over the weekend but feeling very emotional and very down. Thank you also Gail for being there for me, I am so glad I made so many nice friends here, I can't imagine all of us ever getting out of touch.Love,Wendy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gail_R Posted November 13, 2007 Author Report Share Posted November 13, 2007 Wendy don't feel bad. I think that we all have brain farts every now and then. I ask the same questions to people and then after I think hey didn't I just ask them that so that's ok. I think that sometimes we have go many things going on in our heads that we forget that we have already asked that. Hope that you are having a better day? I just got out of bed was up half the night how I hate nights like that makes for the longest days. Not to sure what I will do today feeling tired my just do some cleaning and a little landry and call it a day. Thanks friend for being there for me. Gail Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WendyJ Posted November 13, 2007 Report Share Posted November 13, 2007 Hey Gail, today so far is alittle better but I think it is just because I have been very busy at work. Just got home and I have to feed the pups and myself and then throw in some laundry too and pay a couple bills. Now that is what I have to do, but what I do may be different ! LOL I thought I was the only one who called them brain farts...nice to see someone else knows my language ! So how did the rest of your day go? Did you get your stuff done or did you take a nap since you were up half the night?Love,Wendy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gail_R Posted November 14, 2007 Author Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 Hi Wendy no napping had to get all the stuff done around the house then went to the dentist god I hate going to them they hurt my mouth so much. After that came home made so supper and me a bubble bath and watched some TV. Boy is my life execting or what. Think now I will get ready and go to bed and sleep I hope. Glad that you had a better day ,God knows that we deserve one or two. Well goodnight talk to you tomorrow. Gail Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted November 14, 2007 Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 Wendy,I think the brain memory is greatly affected by what we've been through, I know mine has. I am never surprised any more at my memory. It's kind of like a computer that has things running in the background all the time so it has less to run whatever we're trying to do with it, it gets bogged down and sluggish...well our brains are like that, and somewhere in the background we're dealing with the grieving and stress of all we've been through and it leaves less to deal with the everyday stuff in our lives...it affects our work and everything. I think it gets better with time, but I'm in my third year and I know I'm still not the same as before. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gail_R Posted November 14, 2007 Author Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 kay you are one very wise lady. Thank god you are here to help us when we need it. Like I was telling Wendy there are good days and bad days. But the good days are getting to be more of them and then I feel guilty like I sould not be feeling good because Bruce is not here did you feel like that also? Thanks Kay for being here for all of us that are tiring to make our way out of this grief. Gail Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dpodesta Posted November 14, 2007 Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 Believe me, there are a lot of times that I feel good and feel guilty about it. In my situation, I am out of debt and have some financial stability because of Karen's death. I feel guilty about this because we struggled so much with finances while she was alive. I know in my heart that she is glad that Carson and I are doing so well.Love alwaysDerek Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted November 14, 2007 Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 Yes, I used to have times where I felt guilty if I enjoyed myself or anything, I think that's common, because our grief is our connection to them. But it's certainly not good to stay in level 1 grief because it is too intense for our body to handle for a prolonged period of time. We NEED to move through this so we need to ALLOW ourself to feel good at times or to have good moments. It helps to remind ourselves that they are happy and healthy in a better place and would not want us to be miserable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rosanne Posted November 14, 2007 Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 I pray and hope that all of our loved ones are happy!! When you think of them being happy, it is a little more bearable.Love,Rosanne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WendyJ Posted November 14, 2007 Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 Kay,If our mind is like computers then I need someone to take a look at mine. Either something funky keeps happening and I have to keep hitting CONTOL ALT DELETE, or I just have to shut down and start over again. Computers are not reliable and neither is my brain lately. LOLLove,Wendy Rosanne,If I could just have one visit from Steve, telling me he is okay, and pain free and happy I could have a much easier time moving on, which if you could get the same from your Mom I am sure you could too. Is that too much for us to ask? Why can't we have just that? Sure we would still grieve and miss them but it would make it a bit easier, don't you think?Love,Wendy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted November 14, 2007 Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 True, but you have a sense of humor...computers don't! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WendyJ Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 I don't know about that Kay, I think I have heard some giggling coming from mine once in awhile. Love,Wendy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
walter/Erica Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 Hi Waiting to hear from you my friend..I senmt uyou an e mail in my lunchtime??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gail_R Posted November 16, 2007 Author Report Share Posted November 16, 2007 Erica not sure if you are getting my emails. I'm pretty bad at the email thing if not for my kids I would be lost withthe computer. Hope that you are having a good day. Mine is not to bad as of yet but is it COLD here today it's trying to snow I hate the cold. Have a good day my friend hope to get an email fromyou soon. Gail Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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