2 Weeks Ago Today, I Lost My Dear Son, Bruzer.

[BruzersDaddy]

This is the hardest thing I have experienced in my life thus far. Some days have been better than others however none of them have been good. Make sense to anyone? I can't seem to function at anything very effectively if at all. In my first post I titled it "life has no color, now that they are gone." Referring to the death of both my mother and my Son Bruzer in the month of October.

It continues to feel that way and has an overwhelming sense of emptiness to it as well. I can't work (I am self employed so no work no pay) I can't sleep well. I don't get excited or look forward to anything anymore because "Whats the point, my Son is gone".

Thank HOV for providing this forum. I check it several times a day to see if anyone had replied or if other posts have helpful insight into this experience. Of course they often do as there are many of us out there going through similar pain and loss. With Fur-Children and/or Human.

My wife and I are at times supportive with each other and at times hard on each other to "get over it" he's gone, we have work to do. We need to sell our house due to financial constraints but the market is so bad right now. Also, when we sell we will likely have to find a home for our Parrot Sydney of 14 years as renting an apartment or a house with such a loud (and yes messy and destructive) pet at times is not easy.

We also have a Golden Retriever we have had for 4 years that was going to be trained as a service dog for a disabled family member. Well that didn't work out because his temperament is to timid. We will likely need to find him a new home as well.

For those of you who may be wondering, I believe in providing for an animal for life. That means either they stay in the family or they are found excellent qualified homes that will improve the quality of everyones life that is involved. It's not easy to do but it can be done if one is committed to the care and happiness of the animal.

None the less, it's more loss that I know I have to go through in the coming weeks and months. It's just so hard to do when life has no color and I can't seem to get out of bed.

Thanks for being there everyone. My heart goes out to all of you.

BruzersDaddy, Kevin

Edited November 28, 2007 by BruzersDaddy

[AnnieO]

Kevin,

I wish I had the right words to say to help you. I am so sorry about Bruzer and your mother. I lost my mom and my dog on the same day, so I can relate to your pain and sadness.I think how you are feeling right now is completely normal since it's only been 2 weeks.

I am an "pet for life" person too,so if there comes a time you need to find a home for your Golden Ret or parrot, I am sure everyone here on the site will do all they can to help you. I know I want to help.

I have horses and am currently looking for a new one, my husband asked which horse I was selling. I am sure my eyes popped out of my head, I told him I wasn't selling anyone! He said, "oh, I am finally getting it, animals come here, but animals don't ever leave". Now he and I are on the same page!

Take care of yourself . You and your wife are in my thoughts.

[MartyT]

Hi Kevin,

I've just finished reading a wonderful book entitled Rescuing Sprite: A Dog Lover's Story of Joy and Anguish. (I ordered the book earlier this week, after catching a televised interview with the author, Mark Levin, who happens to be a nationally-syndicated radio talk-show host. I had never heard of the man before I saw this interview.) The author looks at the loss of his dog from a man's perspective, and I found his book to be very moving and honest. This afternoon, out of curiosity, I paid a visit to Mark Levin's Web site, www.marklevinshow.com, where I found a number of video and audio clips in which he shares with other (male) talk-show hosts what he has learned from his own experience of adopting, loving and losing his beloved dog, Sprite. Since you're looking "to see if anyone had replied or if other posts have helpful insight into this experience," I thought you might like to visit Mark's site to listen to what insights he has gained.

[Tami]

I am SO on the same page with you. Sheeba died Oct. 24th and although we have two other cats, there is a horrible void she left that cannot be filled. My husband and I were self employed for 14 years so I can empathize with the fact you cant just stop and take time to grieve/heal/reflect. Politically correct or not, I'll pray for you.

[heidismom]

hi kevin,,im sorry for your loss ,i dont have anything to say that will help but i wanted to let you know i feel bad for you and all of us who lost our loved ones.

i like your words fur children,we lost heidi in feburary after 17 years,we were so lucky to have had her that long,my husband and i will still sometimes cry together about her,

i hope you have some better days ahead i will pray for some comfort and peace for you,

my heart goes out to you and your wife

sharon

[waabzy]

BruzersDaddy

Two weeks is such a short time and you have so many other things happening right now too.

Its been almost 2 months since my Nvwati passed away and there are times, like this morning that I miss him so much. Its like a wound that keeps opening.

When we love our furbabies it hurts a lot to lose them.

Best of luck finding forever homes for the parrot and golden. Have you considered a Golden Rescue ????????