Support For My Mother's Loss Of Spouse

[Ahna215]

I'm knew to this web site. My step-father just passed area recently on June 8, 2005 at 1130pm. My mom is suffering with his loss and absence in her life. I feel so inadequate as what to do to help her. I have not yet had time to grieve for him. My mom gave me his cell phone fo that she could call me day or night if she needed me. Well, these call have been all the time now. I feel so ashamed about how I feel with her calling all the time. She may have a bad day or someone may say something to her and it starts her crying- it gets worse....She'll become hysterical if she can't get a hold of me on this cell phone- I'm to have on my person day and night. I left it on the charger one night as I went to go pick up my daughter and she was so upset with me. She calls me at home a lot. This is not only affecting me, but my oldest son (8yrs old) as well. I don't know what to do or say that will help her with her grief. I tried mentioning talking/ going to a support group that will have people there going through the same grief as she is. She says she doesn't want to talk to strangers and that's why I need to keep this cell phone with me at all times. I have not cried for my step-father yet!! I'm having a hard time coping with this, family ( 3 kids and my dad lives with us), and work. Please, anyone, any advice, words of comfort, anything that will help my mom and I!!!!!! I sent this website to her, in hopes she will see that she is not alone in this. Thanks for listening, Ahna