kayc Posted August 14, 2005 Report Share Posted August 14, 2005 I just got back from two days at a "Women of Faith" conference in Portland Oregon. One of the speakers was a young woman who told us of meeting a very special young man when she was just 15 years old, of their ensuing relationship, and what a special person he was, what a special relationship they were blessed with. They married and after 18 years of knowing each other, just as they were ready to start a family, on Sept. 10, 2001 while vacationing in Jamaica, he had a diving accident. They looked for him all evening and on Sept. 11 as her family wanted to fly to be with her, they couldn't...all of America was grounded because of its own tragedy. All alone, across the world, she faced her grief alone with her God. He sent a housekeeper to hug her and sing to her (albeit off key ) as a sign of His comfort to her. Now, nearly four years later, this beautiful young woman continues to keep alive his memory with the hope she has of seeing him again, and continues to cherish him by her continued wearing of her wedding ring. She talks of learning to live again, in spite of the pain, with her loss, and drawing close to God for her source of strength. She has written books..."Learning to Breathe Again" and "Beyond the Sorrow" and two songs on her CD's spoke to me, particularly "My Irreplaceable" (speaking of how we can have losses in this life but God is her "irreplaceable" that can never be lost) and the other is "Father God". As broke as I am, I decided to purchase these, for right now I'd take comfort and strength and wisdom over food any day. Another young woman, Natalie Grant, had a friend write a song for two of her friends who had recently experienced great losses...one lost their seven month old baby that it had taken ten years to be able to conceive, the other lost her husband quite rapidly to Leukemia. This song is called "Held" and its words also held meaning for me. I will see if I can get a hold of the words to them. But isn't it neat, that the first time I ever attended this conference, that it spoke to me the very things I needed? I should have brought a lot more kleenex. The thing that really spoke to me about Tammy was her spirit in spite of and in the midst of her pain that is still real and still fresh and that was evident...and her love for her husband, that in spite of her youth, in spite of not having had children yet, she still chooses to honor him. I am so tired of hearing "You're young (I'm nearly 53), you'll find someone else" or people who minimize my loss because I wasn't able to be married to my husband longer...some of us who are younger or had shorter marriages loved deeply and completely and that was the case with my husband and myself, and some of us do not want to replace our husbands...in fact, I find it disheartening that in this instant gratification world that we live in, people seem to think that we can replace our irreplaceable spouses almost instantly! I don't judge those who do, believe me I don't, the loneliness and pain is something so great that none of us can judge how people handle it, but for myself, I find comfort that there is someone else out there that feels as I do, that my dead husband is worth more than all of the alive men that live today put together...no offense, it's just my feeling, and I'm sure there are those of you who feel the same way about your deceased spouse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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