aunt Posted October 3, 2005 Report Share Posted October 3, 2005 hi. 2 months ago my 21 yr old nephew, my sister's only child, was killed in a car accident. i was 19 when he was born. i have feelings of love for him almost as if he were my own son. i can't find others like me. i have searched a few forums and it seems there isn't a specific place for me to go. i am the aunt. not the mom or dad, not the brother or sister, not the grandma... i am overwhelmed with fear that something will now happen to one of my kids or to my husband, or even that i might be taken from them. i realize that this is normal. also i feel so guilty. i guess it's something similar to "survivor's guilt" - ? i wonder how my sister can stand to look at me, at my 20 yr old daughter, at my 17 yr old son. i don't know how to understand why i get to keep my wonderful family and she has to give up the son she built her life around. as a mom and as her sister, i cannot stand that this has happened to her. but i am helpless.she and i are very different. she is strong emotionally, i am not. a few times i have found myself in a situation where she was comforting me. i don't know how to handle it. yes i am heart broken, i am destroyed, but i know it can't come close to how she is feeling. it seems there is nothing i can say to her - there is nothing to say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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