Sadness In Loss Of Friend

[Queeniemary]

When my first husband and I were young marrieds, we were close to his cousin and wife. They were our age, and when we moved to Illinois they did also. When my then husband and I moved back to Arkansas, we of course, did not see them as much, but they were family and there was some contact. In the 70s my first husband and I divorced, and I lost contact with them for a number of years. However, as life comes in circles, in the later years, I grew close again to my first husband's family. My first husband remarried, and so did I. Carl and I had a friendly relationship, we shared children and grandchildren. About 7 years ago Carl died of cancer, his widow, and my children ask Mike to preside at the funeral, and he did. Then Mike died two years ago, and time moves on. Now I have been friends on FB with Carl's cousin's wife for a number of years, and have visited with them when they came to Arkansas and would come and visit Carl's Mother (who lives with my daughter)who is a sister to the cousin's Mother. Three weeks ago Pat messaged me on FB for prayers, as they were doing a biopsy on her liver and pancreas. We messaged back and forth a day or so, and she said she would let me know the results. She died this past Wednesday, and although we were not close really, I am feeling really really low. She was two weeks older than I, and we were talking just weeks ago. I am raging that such horrible things can be going on in our bodies, and we don't even know it. Just as Mike did not know he was setting up for a massive coronary, with no warning or symptoms.

Sorry, just had to get all that out. I am feeling so bad for her husband, and family. I just needed to vent to someone about the terrible unfairness of life at times, and I knew I could do that here. Thanks for listening.

Mary (Queeniemary) in Arkanss

[MartyT]

I'm so very sorry for your loss, dear Mary ~ and I just wanted you to know that you've been heard . . .

[mfh]

Dear Mary,

I am sorry for your loss. Life is unfair often as we all know. I think having a loss when one is already grieving is difficult. Peace, Mary

[Anne E]

Mary,

Even though we know dead happens and we have suffered terrible losses, I don't think we ever become accustomed to or accepting of death. I am so very sorry for your loss and so happy you feel comfortable venting to us.

God Bless,

Anne

[kayc]

Mary,

I, too, am sorry for your loss, and even though you lost touch for a while, I'm glad you were able to be in contact in more recent years. Yes, life is unfair, and it leaves us feeling like we are powerless when these things happen unbeknownst to us.