kayc Posted February 13, 2013 Report Share Posted February 13, 2013 Why is it that every time something like this happens, we feel they're being removed farther and farther from us? This was his secondary account, I lost the primary one years ago when a hard drive crashed, so there wasn't anything important in there, but it's just the idea. This morning I discovered the account was hacked into by someone from India two days ago and I had reason to believe they were still in there so I deleted the account. I feel violated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mfh Posted February 13, 2013 Report Share Posted February 13, 2013 Oh, Kay, I am so sorry. I do think that those who violate internet sites and services threaten us at a deep level..more than stealing something out of a car. Then when it is the account of someone we love who has died....that put it over the edge. I am so sorry. You WERE violated. Peace in the rest of the day Mary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enna Posted February 13, 2013 Report Share Posted February 13, 2013 What a terrible thing to happen, Kay. I am so sorry that it happened to you. I can't imagine the heartache. You are in my thoughts right now. I'll share any chocolate I have with you - and that's alot if you know me! Anne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pumkin Posted February 13, 2013 Report Share Posted February 13, 2013 What a horrible thing to happen. My girlfriend in N.J. just called me to say, she was hacked into by someone from India as your George's account was. It's truly is a violation. It is so upsetting. So very sorry for having to go through this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted February 14, 2013 Report Share Posted February 14, 2013 Yet another loss ~ yet another piece of your beloved taken from you, Kay. Not fair. Not fair at all. I am so, so sorry . . . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feralfae Posted February 14, 2013 Report Share Posted February 14, 2013 I'm so sorry Kay. To lose pieces of your life, especially one of the communication pieces, and one that was private property, is just theft. A significant violation in so many ways. You were already dealing with so much, and you did not need this added insult to your grief and loss. Sometimes, I think it is just too much for any of us to bear. Yet, somehow, we keep going, we keep living, and we find reasons to go on. I am so sorry for this invasion, intrusion, and theft. {{{hugs}}} *<twinkles>* fae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HAP Posted February 14, 2013 Report Share Posted February 14, 2013 Dear Kay, This just really stinks at so many levels at once. I'm sorry you have this to carry as well. Job has nothing on you. Peace. Harry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted February 14, 2013 Author Report Share Posted February 14, 2013 I think there needs to be stiffer penalties for hackers, maybe the death penalty? Kidding, but seriously, like maybe taking away their rights to have internet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mfh Posted February 14, 2013 Report Share Posted February 14, 2013 I agree on the penalties...I just wonder how hard it is to find these critters....so easy to hide when you know how. Mary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted February 14, 2013 Author Report Share Posted February 14, 2013 They're smart...too bad they don't apply it on something useful! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KATPILOT Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 Kay I am so sorry that happened to you. It truly does make you feel violated. I use Kathy's email more than my own and I need to have letters from me appear from her name when I write people who care about me and loved her. I can tell you that if that happened to me, I would start a new account slightly different. It is sad that we live in such a vulnerable place. Stephen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feralfae Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 Death cannot stop true love. It can only delay it for a while. "the princess bride" Thank you KATPILOT, that was one of my husband's favorites, too. Peace and Blessings. *<twinkles>* feralfae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaAnnB Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 Kay, how horrible that it happened to you. You're right to feel violated-you were. And i agree that it seems like incidents & having to delete things from our loved ones lives feels like they're being more & more removed from us. That sucks. [[[[[[hugs]]]]]] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShanN Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 Kay, I'm so very sorry that happened to you. That's a terrible violation and loss. (((((Hugs))))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annette85035 Posted February 17, 2013 Report Share Posted February 17, 2013 I know the feeling..I can't delete my mothers email account and it has been over 3 years! It would be like losing part of her again. She was so proud of when she was able to use the computer by herself too! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted February 18, 2013 Author Report Share Posted February 18, 2013 Why delete it...a lot of people keep the email and Facebook accounts of their beloved, just another connection... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted February 18, 2013 Report Share Posted February 18, 2013 That is true, Kay. I read this just this morning: Facebook is changing the way we grieve Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted February 18, 2013 Author Report Share Posted February 18, 2013 Thanks, Marty. I have supplied my kids with my pw file and they have a list of all sites I've joined, plus email accounts; if they want to close my FB or memorialize it or leave it be, that will be up to them to decide. I don't have a preference, whatever is easiest on them. As of now my daughter has never joined FB so I reckon it'd be up to my son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cakes01 Posted April 26, 2013 Report Share Posted April 26, 2013 This is sad. Like your daughter i have never joined FB. Marcus and his girls are on it. I only saw his page a few times. Was just never interested in it. Our tablets are synced so i get his email still. I don't know which one of the girls is using his tablet, but the day someone unsyncs are tablets i'm going to lose what little peace i have found with having this piece of him. That was very smart of you giving your kids that info. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dickd Posted April 30, 2013 Report Share Posted April 30, 2013 Kay, I am so sorry for the added pain this brings to your life! My hope is that you will have lots of positive things happen for you today!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted April 30, 2013 Author Report Share Posted April 30, 2013 Ahh, thank you, but it is how it is sometimes. Thank you for your good wishes! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Conbon20 Posted May 11, 2013 Report Share Posted May 11, 2013 Why is it that every time something like this happens, we feel they're being removed farther and farther from us? This was his secondary account, I lost the primary one years ago when a hard drive crashed, so there wasn't anything important in there, but it's just the idea. This morning I discovered the account was hacked into by someone from India two days ago and I had reason to believe they were still in there so I deleted the account. I feel violated. Kay, I am new to this site but I lost my husband in January and feel like I am in an alternate reality that I can't get out of. I read your description of canceling your husbands e-mail account and I wanted to post something that happened to me. I have a facebook page which I started several years ago at my daughter's prompting. At the time, my husband was at home and loved to get on his e-mail, etc. so I started a facebook page for him. I could never get him interested in it so it stayed put in my "friends list". Well, I got on there the other day to see how I could delete it - since he's passed away now. Imagine my surprise when I clicked on it and saw another face. It was a face of a young man who claims he is Woody Schultz. That was my husband's name. I was appalled. He must have stolen my husband's identity. That had to be it. I told my son-in-law who is very computer savy and he told me how many people share "his" name. I can't even imagine that someone else shares my husband's name. After all, he was so unique and extraordinary and one of a kind. I sent a message to the young man which he did not respond to. I told him I had been married to Woody Schultz for 46 years and he certainly didn't look like MY husband. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mfh Posted May 11, 2013 Report Share Posted May 11, 2013 Kay, I am new to this site but I lost my husband in January and feel like I am in an alternate reality that I can't get out of. I read your description of canceling your husbands e-mail account and I wanted to post something that happened to me. I have a facebook page which I started several years ago at my daughter's prompting. At the time, my husband was at home and loved to get on his e-mail, etc. so I started a facebook page for him. I could never get him interested in it so it stayed put in my "friends list". Well, I got on there the other day to see how I could delete it - since he's passed away now. Imagine my surprise when I clicked on it and saw another face. It was a face of a young man who claims he is Woody Schultz. That was my husband's name. I was appalled. He must have stolen my husband's identity. That had to be it. I told my son-in-law who is very computer savy and he told me how many people share "his" name. I can't even imagine that someone else shares my husband's name. After all, he was so unique and extraordinary and one of a kind. I sent a message to the young man which he did not respond to. I told him I had been married to Woody Schultz for 46 years and he certainly didn't look like MY husband. Conbon20, You are in an alternate reality...we all are. I remember canceling Bill's email account, and taking his name off of other accounts...like he no longer existed...when he does but just not physically. As for Woody Schultz on Facebook. There are many duplicates of people's names just as there are many on the planet. Keep looking as your husband's page should still be there. It is actually pretty hard to close a Facebook account...many people just leave them open. Of course it is hard to imagine someone having your husband's name...think of all the John Smith's on the planet. But that does not mean your husband was not unique...for you know he was. I know it had to be rather shocking to see someone else with his name. Mary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted May 13, 2013 Author Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 If you try accessing your husband's page through your "friends" list you should come up with the right one. I was on the phone with eBay the other day and wanted to know why they couldn't access my account with just my phone number...they told me others are using my phone number. I told them I live alone, I pay the bill, I've had the phone number for 36 years, no one else should be using it. They said, "Do you know a George?" My voice softened and just the sound of his name brought a smile to my face...I told him that was my husband, he's been deceased nearly eight years. They told me they'd take care of it, but then I felt a pang, like I got rid of him a bit more. Ahh, this is the odd path we're on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mfh Posted May 13, 2013 Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 Oh, Kay, it is an odd path. I remember removing Bill's name from his credit cards after he died. We had joint cards and each of us had cards as a back up in case something happened to one of us. I felt like I betrayed him for a while. Seems like a bunch of us are having memories from the past today. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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