evetoo Posted February 28, 2013 Report Share Posted February 28, 2013 Lost my husband just a month ago and so much grief from other times that if I get through this (I have serious heart problems), that I don't see how anyone can ever care about anyone again. I don't mean a romantic love or anything like that, but just caring about any one person that you would not want to lose. I was divorced after 14 yrs. and this time was married to my soulmate for 40 1/2 yrs and we both went through several life threatening illnesses along with my wonderful adopted son who, as an adult, found that he has muscular dystrophy. Right now I feel that I don't want to even have serious friendships with anyone as I don't see why we even meet these people when we are going to lose them anyway. I know that's life and friends are very important but right now I feel there is a limit to how much grief anyone can take. We sold our home of 30 yrs that we both loved because of the nature all around us so we could live closer to my daughter and grands. We planned to buy a house but now I am going into an apartment that has only a few trees but a dog park for my beloved dog. I have been very busy with funeral, all the financial stuff, packing, etc. that I wonder if I am doing too much all at once. I presently live in an apt away from family and the hospice team said that it shows that I am not giving up by planning all this but would like to hear from others who moved quickly after death. My house held lots of memories and I don't know if that would have been harder to stay in and it was way in the country. I have no ties to my present apt except for the fact that my husband died here. I plan to put a little corner with his urn and photo in my new apt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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