Honoring My Daughter's Memory By Trying To Help Other Grievers

[mbkubitz]

This fall will mark four years since my daughter's death (at age 4). Since her death, our family tried to think of various ways we might honor her memory. One of my biggest fears of losing a child so young is that she would be forgotten. Not just by the rest of the world, but by time slowly erasing the specific memories our family has of her. She was not old enough to "leave her mark" on the world. At four, her best friends consisted of her four older brothers, who were relatively young themselves when she died. Our memories are all we have left.

What we ended up deciding was to create a grief support memory that allows families to share memories of thier loved ones. I realized that no matter how much pain I was in, the best way to lift my spirits was to talk abut her and share my memories with whoever would listen. Writing is also theraputic for me, so I combined them and created, www.aliveinmemory.org. I created this site in hopes that others would find the same comfort in writing down the precious memories of their loved ones. Not only would they be captured and not forgotten, but would allow them to be introduced to new people after their passing, thereby keeping them alive in our collective memories.

The site is new, and most of the stories are of my daughter, but I welcome anyone to add their own memories if they think it would help them heal their grief. There are no ads or requests for donations. It is our way of honoring our daughter by reaching out to others in love and support.

Take care,

Maria

[Cakes01]

Maria,

What a beautiful idea. So giving and thoughtful. I'm so sorry for your loss of your precious daughter. This is a wonderful idea and sure it will be of help to many as i hope it has been for you and your family.

Kristen

[Cakes01]

I just checked out your site real quick. I wanted to tell you that you did an absolute lovely job. Very pretty and comforting. I will take more time looking at it after i get some sleep. Thank you for making that site available.

[Cakes01]

Yeah sleep isn't happening. I had to read your site. I hope you don't think this too forward of me, but i couldn't help, but shed a few tears for you and your family. My heart goes out to you.

[KATPILOT]

Maria,

What a wonderfull idea you had and the site is a beautifull one which I am sure will help many with the fear of loosing the memory and essence of one's we love and crossed over far too soon. You are not alone with the benefit of therapy writing things down brings. I am so sorry that you had to have lost a child so young. One day soon I hope I can make an entry since Kathy left way before her time.

Stephen