Memorial Time

[Devi]

My beloved fiance passed away, very shockingly, in July of this year. Since his family live overseas I had to take care of all the arrangements regarding his cremation and also take care of clearing out his house organizing and storing everything. It has been shocking, draining and emotionally painful.. He was a wonderful, loving human being and new many people from around the world who honored and respected him greatly.

Since his passing I have lost my sense of time ~ Literally!! My concept of time is so off it takes me about a month to return a phone call... I am not exaggerating.

I have his ashes which will eventually be brought to a sacred temple overseas. I am wondering if it is unusual and OK to have a memorial service manybe 6-8 months after His departure. I just can not face having to talk with so many people and deal with the preparations for such an event.

Because we were so close, for me it still feels like yesterday that He left. But I know for others it is probably different. Is it OK to postpone his services for so long?

Devi

[Bebekat]

I don't know if there is a "proper" time frame for a memorial. Since you have been left to make the arrangements, whatever you want to do will be right. There is no right or wrong to this whole grief thing. Who knows, maybe you will feel like doing it sooner than you think.

[kayc]

I don't see why you can't do a memorial service even if it has been several months. It may be unusual, but I would think most people would understand, it is hard at best. I wish you well.