mfh Posted January 9, 2014 Report Share Posted January 9, 2014 I can not tell you how many people, especially women, I have seen in therapy in close to 40 years who report that they feel selfish if they receive..compliments, time for themselves, gifts from others...anything. And yet, as we grieve (and live healthy lives) we must be able and willing to receive from others, to ask for help as well as give to others. We see people here doing this all the time....everyone gives and everyone receives at one time or another. It goes back and forth all day, every day. Both are needed for a healthy life... This piece posted by Tara Brach but written by John Amodeo says this so well: By receiving with a tender self-compassion, we’re allowing ourselves to be touched by life’s gifts. Letting ourselves receive deeply and graciously is a gift to the giver. It conveys that their giving has made a difference — that we’ve been affected. Giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin of intimacy. As I put it in my book, Dancing with Fire, “We may then bask together in a non- dual moment in which there is no distinction between the giver and the receiver. Both people are giving and receiving in their own unique ways. This shared experience can be profoundly sacred and intimate.” You can find the entire piece here: http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/01/07/5-reasons-why-receiving-is-harder-than-giving/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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