mfh Posted January 12, 2014 Report Share Posted January 12, 2014 One of the things we who grieve miss so much is physical contact with our beloved. What I have noticed since Bill died is how few people in my life, who do hug me (and there are many), do not come close to the 20 seconds mentioned in this brief statement below. If I happen to be sobbing, that changes and a friend will hold me while I cry, but otherwise 3-8 seconds is probably about it. I would bet that most grieving people would welcome many 20 second (or more) hugs. The average length of a hug between two people is 3 seconds. But researchers have discovered something fantastic. When a hug lasts 20 seconds, there is a therapeutic effect on the body and mind. The reason is that a sincere hug produces a hormone called "oxytocin", also known as the love hormone. This substance has many benefits in our physical and mental health, helps us, among other things, to relax, to feel safe and calm our fears and anxiety. This wonderful calming is offered free of charge every time we have a person in our arms, who cradled a child, we cherish a dog or cat, we're dancing with our partner, the closer we get to someone or just hold the shoulders of a friend the more grounded and loved we feel. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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