Recently Bereaved And Feeling Numb

[dilusion]

why cant I stop crying. its so hard to even walk down the street without getting upset. it is early days I lost my partner in February I was his carer aswell. : ((

[enna]

First of all, I want to tell you how sorry I am that you lost your partner in February. You are so new to your grief. You are in shock over this loss. It is good that you are crying. Crying is good.

This is a good place for you to be to express your pain. We understand the loss of a partner, spouse, or any other loss because we too have gone through it.

Right now, it is time to just allow what sadness comes to happen.

If you wish, tell us more about your partner. You mentioned that you were his caregiver. Share with us when you want so we can get to know you a little better.

It is important that you eat well and drink water and go outside in the fresh air right now. Others will have more to say. I am sorry for the reason you are here but welcome to this site.

Anne

[kayc]

I am sorry you lost your partner. It is very soon, and it's understandable that you would cry. Many of us cried for months, many of us for years. It takes so long for it to even sink in that they're gone. Crying is good, it releases the pressure inside that you are feelings, we need that.

I hope you will tell us more about you...how long you were together, approximate age, any kids, do you have support around you, do you still work, etc. Also, would love to hear about your partner, what kind of person they were, those things you fell in love with, when you feel ready to share.

[mfh]

I hear your pain. Your tears heal and are quite normal. I hope you will share more so we can get to know you and support you.

Mary

[Queeniemary]

I am so sorry for the loss you have suffered, and for your pain. I firmly believe that crying, the tears that we shed, helps us. It is a way to help release some of the agony and stress that grieving brings. Do not apologize for tears, they are necessary. This is a good site to come to, we all are walking on the same path, we have all suffered the same type of loss. There are many here to give excellent advice, but most of all we all listen, and sometimes that is what is needed, someone to listen.

Mary (Queeniemary) in Arkansas

[KATPILOT]

Welcome aboard dilusion. You have found a safe place where it's okay to cry and sadly there is no answer to your question. You will find that you among friends who have and still are enduring what you are going through. Every one of us was once just a month into this journey. It's hard but somehow we are still alive. There are tools here to help you and comfort when you need it. Sometimes it's helpful just reading what has been told by those before us. Hang in there and try to take care of "you". We here all know that no one's grief is the same, but we do share one thing in common...........we've all lost someone.

Stephen

[heidi1]

Dilusion, I lost my husband in March, I too was his caregiver for some years, I can honestly say that I never resented him being ill, I loved him so much, I cry every day many times, it is an effort to be with other people even my own children. It does seem as though crying is an outlet, a release, and I really don't care who sees me cry, because nothing matters anymore. So please don't worry about crying, I'm sure it is very normal.

[kayc]

I wish I had a "like" button here.