Mike98 Posted August 4, 2014 Report Share Posted August 4, 2014 I was with my girlfriend for 6 months and we were completely fine during that time. It wasn't until the end of June when her sister died that things changed. It was the Sunday this happened and I was due to go on holiday with my family the following Thursday. Anyway, I remained there for her and we texted each other and she wanted me there. She even went to her school prom on the Monday as her sister was the one who wanted her to in the first place. I was able to see her on the Wednesday for half an hour before I'd be going away for 2 weeks. We sat in her room and talked about how she was, prom, laughed and joked a little, and then she had to go and we hugged for a while and I was able to see her mum and nan and stepdad. I then left and it was that night before I went that she started texting me saying she was sorry, truly sorry, and that she didn't know how long it was going to be until she was going to be okay or if she ever would be but that she didn't want for me to have to sit around and wait for her. I reassured her that I wasn't going to leave her and she ended up accepting this. We continued talking for the two weeks I was away, both by texting and snapchat. This was throughout the hard times of arranging the funeral and the funeral itself, however, overall she was fine with me during this period. She had also decided that she was going to go on the school trip that she had planned to go on with her friends abroad the last year for 2 weeks which she would leave for the Monday before I came back and would have no communication there. She had her off moments whilst texting but I put that down to grief and overall she still seemed interested. I got back from my holiday and would have to wait 10 days for her to come back. She ended up getting home a day earlier than expected and was on her phone for about 20 minutes and didn't bother to text me she was back (something I only knew through social media of her other friends). I sent her a message that night saying "You're back???" And got a reply in the morning of "yeah," which was disappointing considering that's all she could say after 2 weeks of not hearing from me. Considering she'd said things like I wish you wasn't going and I wish you were here and things and she didn't want me to go as she didn't want to be alone. I asked her how the trip was and that and then brought in if I could see her anytime soon to which I got the reply of "erm not yet," I didn't mean to persist but said I know she didn't want me round hers as that didn't feel right but it could be round mine to which I got replies of "idk" "mmm". I then said sorry if I was annoying her and she then said "Its just I don't particularly want to be with someone right now" and this hit me hard to which I said "Well we don't have to do the normal couple things and see each other regularly and talk all fun and happy and laugh but I don't want you out of my life...like I'll just see you when you'd be up to spend just a little time with someone else other than family and I don't expect it to be like normal but I would just be there as someone to talk to like with no pressure to act like a couple" and then she said that wasn't right and I said I was okay with it and she then was like "ah mike" and then I said could it not work and she then repeated that "I can't explain but I just don't want to be with someone like its not specifically you." I was desperate at the time asking would me acting like a friend atm not work and she said she didn't know and that still talking would be weird but she couldn't stop me. From that day I texted her just a little the following day just asking how she was to which she replied fine thanks and asked me, we got back to general talk however the conversation was one-sided with me asking all the questions and her most of the time seemingly disinterested and only rarely replying enthusiastically. It hurts as she is still able to talk to her friends and snapchat them as I see her go online and off throughout the day. Also, I saw her pictures of her on holiday with many with this boy looking way too comfortable for my liking. This not helped when just this Saturday she was tagged in another with him with comments from her friends about them being cute and "holiday luv" etc and him and her replying jokingly to it "ikr so romantic corr" and such. And to top it off the boy is her "best friend" on the snapchat app which means she's texting him the most and has been since she's back. All of that made me stop the patient game and just flat out ask to see her to which she said why and I said "I care about you too much to just lose contact with you completely and I would just like to see you to just talk about things" and she then said "Erm right well im busy for a while doing what my mum wants to do and seeing my family and things so" and I then asked her if she would tell when I can see her and that we can meet wherever to which she said yeah if you really want, and I then said I really do, her finally replying "right okay." That's where it's been left from Saturday and now I plan on awaiting her to reply to tell me when she can meet. So, I ask, what do you thinks appropriate to ask when I see her and how long should I leave her before I get in contact again if she doesn't contact me like she has said she will? Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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