kayc Posted August 21, 2014 Report Share Posted August 21, 2014 As many of you know, my mom had a very troubled life, she had problems, even as a child, with nearly every personality disorder known. Her test results were: Paranoid: Very High Borderline: Very High Histrionic: Very High Avoidant: Very High Narcissistic: High Schizotypal: High Antisocial: High Dependent: High Obsessive-Compulsive: High Schizoid: Moderate Because of this, it was difficult for us to realize when she first developed dementia, until it was so blatant there was no doubt. She spent 26 months in a dementia care facility, and during that time was also diagnosed with Leukemia, which they decided not to treat, but put her on hospice. Oddly enough, while my mom was difficult to deal with all her life, the last two years were the easiest as she was finally treated and on medication for her paranoia. She became softer, less controlling, not judgmental, appreciative to see us when we visited. It made it a whole lot nicer to have her go out like this than had she died a few years ago. We got to know her, finally, as a sweet person. I went to see her Tuesday and she'd gone into a coma. It was very difficult to see her like that, unable to talk, and I knew I wouldn't likely see or talk to her again. This morning my brother called, she'd passed away. This is the day she has long awaited, the day she'd finally get to go be with the Lord and be reunited with Daddy. She didn't remember my husband, George any more, but she loved him dearly while he was alive, and I know she is happily rejoined with him as well. I put in a special word for my dear MIL to bake her one of her famous pies, because my mom will finally be able to eat again. Today is the best day of my mom's life. I've about cried my eyes out. I've been on the phone all day, the phone ringing off the hook, calling and notifying relatives. I'm going to miss her, but she is free at last, free of all that plagued her in this life, no longer trapped in a body or mind that doesn't work, finally able to be the person she was meant to be...and I look forward to seeing her again. I am so glad for each and every moment we had together these last couple of years, every conversation, even ones that didn't make sense. I remember her saying a word in a sentence that didn't make sense and she said, "that's not the word but it'll do!" I loved it, her acceptance of this dementia, knowing her mind wasn't working right, but making the best of it. My little mother, everyone at the dementia care facility is mourning her, they all said how sweet she was. I never thought I'd see the day people would see her that way, but she changed so much once she finally got the medication she needed. I am so thankful for all of the care she got. My brother and his wife did a wonderful job of finding the right place and looking after her. Mom, like I told you, I will miss you, but I'm right behind you...just a few more years and we'll be together again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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