feralfae Posted September 3, 2014 Report Share Posted September 3, 2014 This thread was really Mary's idea, but I think it is a good one. I have read some articles on how to survive solo, linked for us by Marty or Mary. Maybe here, we can talk about our strategies to survive on this new adventure of Solo life. I hope that here we can help each other to explore strategies to begin to reintegrate ourselves into our communities and the world, walking solo now, but still walking forth into this new life. I was a great proponent of Solo for a lot of things. Two people cannot sculpt the same piece of art, nor paint the same picture, nor throw the same pot. Not really. But, I was one of those solo kids, so I learned young how to survive on my own, although there were sometimes half-siblings and cousins around, but not always. I came to relish my independence, self-sufficiency, and brave encounters with the great outdoors. Solo. I did two weeks of wilderness survival in Winter, just to show I could. Solo. I would go into the Wind River range Solo for long treks, before we had cell phones or even towers for cell phones in Wyoming. I loved solo adventures into the wilderness anywhere. I thought I was tough and truly a great independent spirit. Doug and I did things together most of the time, but we were both capable of solo adventures as well. Then Doug left, and I found out that I truly suck at Solo when it is a life path and not a choice for a few weeks or in only one area of my life. I am only beginning to feel safe and open enough to reach out, so I have been making very intentional and conscious changes toward expanding my life outward so that I am not as insular as I have been for the last 30 months: I volunteer at the local Art Museum one or two days a week, and give little tours, which makes me need to be articulate, well-groomed, and on my toes, as well as throwing me in with lots of people, almost too many, where I must be social and witty and tolerant; I am helping to heal the local hospital, which desperately needs healing; I am going to Meeting most Sundays, and it is opening my heart, as well as healing my spirit, in many ways, as well as giving me a sense of belonging. It also gives me much to think about; I am reaching out to people, inviting friends to come visit, and going to visit more; I am getting assertive about making lunch dates, having friends over for luncheons, and just beginning to go to some events in town, such as Audubon talks or art walks; I am budgeting so that I can do the inviting of a friend out to dinner and a movie, concert, or something at least once a month; I am looking over my calendar to make sure I have at least one purely social event every week. Sometimes I must prod myself to crawl out of my comfortable cocoon and put in an appearance, even something as simple as going to the local health food market. What are you doing to put a toe into the river of Life these days? And I hope Mary and Marty will add more here, because I am not the deep well on wisdom on this subject that others are. *<twinkles>* fae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Create an account or sign in to comment
You need to be a member in order to leave a comment
Create an account
Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!Register a new account
Already have an account? Sign in here.Sign In Now