shalady Posted December 26, 2014 Report Share Posted December 26, 2014 Hope you are feeling better today and that each day you get a little stronger. Be patient and don't overdo it. The picture of Arlie is great. I know you miss him. He will visit before you know it. Sending you prayers, peace and comfort. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ohsosad Posted December 26, 2014 Report Share Posted December 26, 2014 Arlie is beautiful - and big!!! Does he need to join you in dieting? LOL! Don't get mad!! Just trying to give you a chuckle which you no doubt need! Hope you are doing better as each day goes by. Rita Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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kayc Posted December 26, 2014 Author Report Share Posted December 26, 2014 Arlie's been dieting for two months. I hope his stay with my friend doesn't change that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feralfae Posted December 26, 2014 Report Share Posted December 26, 2014 Kay, It is good to see you up and around a little. Just keep on resting, remembering that while the tiny incisions don't look so intimidating, there is a huge amount of healing going on inside your body. It is snowing vigorously here and the temperatures are dropping, going down below zero in a few days. Today is the first day I have had energy to get out of bed and do a few things before needing to rest again. I hope your daughter is there with you and that she is getting a lot of things done, such as wood-stacking and clearing your walks and ramps. Resting is the most healing thing you can do. Sending healing thoughts and lots of get well wishes, *<twinkles>* fae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ohsosad Posted December 26, 2014 Report Share Posted December 26, 2014 I dog-sat my friend's aussie in October and immediately put her on a diet. Her mom was in denial about how heavy she was. At just 2 years old it was not good for her to be carrying around so much weight. Thankfully my friend saw the light and the dog has lost 9 lbs since then. I can't imagine how you can walk a 130 lb dog. My dog is 100 lbs and when he wants to go in a certain direction, there is no discussion about it. I worried afterwards that I offended you. Please don't tell Arlie that I questioned his size.......It could have just been the angle of the photo!!!! Rita Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queeniemary Posted December 27, 2014 Report Share Posted December 27, 2014 Kay, I have been thinking of you, and am glad this ordeal in the hospital is over. I have not been on the site for several days...just so much going on, and just have not been on computer much. I am sorry that your daughter did not come for Christmas. You were right to talk to your kids and tell them that you do need them at times, and this was one of those times. I hope they were ashamed, they should have been there for you.I have had trouble waking after some of my surgeries, and my breathing has been erratic, I am surprised they did not keep you overnight.The worst (the surgery) is now behind you, so just rest, and heal. Walk around as much as you can, it will help keep the soreness down.I know you are missing Arlie, but you know he is close, and how fortunate that your neighbor is keeping him for you. He would be just too much for you right now.Praying for you and holding you close in my heart.QMary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted December 27, 2014 Author Report Share Posted December 27, 2014 Melissa and Don were able to come for Christmas Day, she fixed a fabulous dinner and it was a nice day...I was tired at the end of it! Yesterday and today, just rested, watching movies, reading, telephone calls. I got to have Arlie for a few hours yesterday, he was as good as gold. Rita, Walking Arlie is not a problem, he is well behaved and trained, but I don't want to chance anything by walking/taking care of him right now. You never know with dogs, if another dog was loose and came towards us...just not a good idea. He'd been losing weight, possibly about five pounds, but I'm afraid my neighbor is giving him too many treats and doesn't listen to me, so he'll probably have it packed back on by the time I get him back, grrr! At least he's getting exercise with his lab. I've done a lot of walking, esp. when on the phone, no unexpected problems once the surgery was behind me. It has been hard taking care of myself and not having anyone here to help, but getting easier each day. I called someone to cut my firewood down, he came out and cut enough to last maybe two days, don't know what I'll do after that. He cut it too long to start with and I can't fight with it now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ohsosad Posted December 27, 2014 Report Share Posted December 27, 2014 Arlie will work off those extra calories with his lab buddy. Rita Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KarenK Posted December 28, 2014 Report Share Posted December 28, 2014 Kay, I'm so glad to see that you are getting around a little better. I so understand the need for help, even with the mundane tasks of fixing food or going to the potty. Of course, I didn't have surgery, only that crazy pneumonia and tanking BP last summer in Kentucky. My SIL was gone for 14 hours each day and it was a real effort to walk a few steps without passing out. My Christmas was okay but marred of course without Ron or Debbie. Added to that was the stress of my son & grandson who cannot get along. There was a bright spot though. My ex called to thank me for the flower arrangement I had sent to him and his wife in honor of our daughter and then later my Kentucky grandkids called. so, all in the world is as right as it will ever be. Couldn't stand sitting home alone on Christmas night, so I went to the casino just for something to do. When I left, I thought I was in Flagstaff. LOL It was like 35 degrees outside. I know that's not cold to you, but to this ol' Phoenix girl, that's COLD. Hoping someone is stepping up to help you. If not, give Home Health another call. Maybe there is someone available now. Love, Karen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted December 28, 2014 Author Report Share Posted December 28, 2014 Karen, I bet 35 does seem cold to you! They predict 13 here Monday night, ugh, not looking forward to that cold. We're supposed to get a bunch of snow in the next few days. I was hoping it'd hold off until I'm well but alas the weather waits for no one. I've had pneumonia and I really think you need someone with you...I remember being so weak, felt like I was going to die and didn't care! Life went on around me while I lay on the couch dying for 2-3 weeks (it was when my kids were little). My husband didn't stay home from work and I was in no condition to take care of the kids. Some of the things we survive! I'm getting better each day. I've been very disappointed in my friend, who has neither checked on me or built me a fire like he'd said he would. But I'm getting by. A friend from Alaska was here at Christmas and she came up and visited me yesterday, we spent four hours catching up! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queeniemary Posted December 28, 2014 Report Share Posted December 28, 2014 Kay, is this the same friend that has Arlie? Maybe he is just waiting on you to let him know when you need him....some people are like that. I am so sorry that no one is attending to you, no one should have to be sick, or have surgery, and go through recovery alone. I am glad your daughter and her husband were there on Christmas day. How far away do they live? I am glad that you are getting better day by day. You should call the person that cut your wood, and get him to cut you enough for a week, especially if bad weather is on the way to you. I am so sorry that you are alone, wish I was there to help you. I have a nephew in Oregon, if I thought he was close enough to you, I would ask him to come and cut wood for you. He is a pretty good guy, and I think he would do it. He lives in Eugene, Oregon.Praying for quick healing for you, and so glad that you have the surgery behind you.QMary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted December 28, 2014 Author Report Share Posted December 28, 2014 QMary, My daughter and SIL live in Eugene but don't have a chainsaw and mine hasn't been fired up since George died, not sure it'd still run. The guy the cut the wood is just down the street, he's the one that sold it to me and I figure since he cut it all too long to start with, it's kind of his job to come fix it. He can only do a row at a time, though, because it's all stacked in the pole barn. I keep a week's worth on my patio at all times in case of a snow storm, and then I work out of the wheelbarrow, so I do have enough to last a week up on the deck. The way my neighbor had put it to me, he said he'd come by and check on me every day and start a fire for me once a day...he hasn't. I suspect it has more to do with his GF pitching a fit because he took me to the hospital. She forgets I've taken him to the hospital too. Anyway, I figure it's between them to work that out, I've never been interested in him as anything but a friend and she has nothing to worry about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queeniemary Posted December 29, 2014 Report Share Posted December 29, 2014 Karen, I know how hard this Christmas was for you, the first without your daughter, Debbie and also missing Ron. As families shrink, it just gets harder and harder. I lost both my oldest sister and my Father in December (different years), my Mother and Mike in January, (also different years), miss all of them so much all the time, but seems to hit home especially during the holidays. I am thinking of you and praying for peace.QMary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted December 29, 2014 Author Report Share Posted December 29, 2014 Well the church brought in meals two days and then quit, without letting me know (the last I'd heard they were coming) so last night I was left without dinner. I finally called at 7:00 and said I wish they'd let me know they changed their mind. In my old church, they'd have been there as long as you needed them, and I have definitely done my share of delivering meals. This morning it is snowing, snowing, snowing. At 2 am we had just a dusting, when I woke up around 6 it was coming down. It's already surpassed the predictions and doesn't look like it's slowing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feralfae Posted December 29, 2014 Report Share Posted December 29, 2014 Oh, dear Kay, It is bad enough that you feel weak and need time to heal and recover, without people letting you down and not showing up as promised. I am so sorry that your church —for which you do so much — is not holding up their end of the relationship. And now snow. It is -3F here right now, with strong winds, and deep drifts outside, so I am simply going to stay in today. I have fires going on both levels, and I am hoping to get some paperwork cleared from the desk. Meanwhile, I hope there is someone you can call about getting more meals delivered, and that you have enough heat and food to make it a couple of days if the snow gets much deeper. I am sending you lots of warm and healing energy, and hope this day is better for you as you heal and rest. *<twinkles>* fae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ohsosad Posted December 30, 2014 Report Share Posted December 30, 2014 Don't go out shoveling! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enna Posted December 30, 2014 Report Share Posted December 30, 2014 Thinking of you and hoping you are feeling better each day, Kay. I know you have had visits with Arlie and that has to lift your spirit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted December 30, 2014 Author Report Share Posted December 30, 2014 Thank you. I got to see Arlie for a short visit tonight...that and a subway sandwich. Tomorrow he will be here for 3-4 hours, I miss him so much! I got lots of kisses from him today! I thought the snow was piling up in the driveway today, but when I looked tonight, most of it had melted...except there's still a lot on the ground. It will be 12 tonight so whatever there is, I'll live with for some time. I warned my neighbor to not walk on the ramp, way too slippery, better to go in front, snow on gravel is less slippery. Esp. with Arlie on the end of the leash! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queeniemary Posted December 30, 2014 Report Share Posted December 30, 2014 Kay, so sorry that you are being let down in so many ways. What kind of excuse did the church ladies offer for not bringing more meals? I know it is times like these that we miss our ones that are gone the most. I know if George were there you would not be wanting for anything. Stay inside, and try to keep warm with all the snow and cold weather. I hope you have enough fire wood. Wish I was there to help you.QMary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted December 30, 2014 Author Report Share Posted December 30, 2014 I have enough wood on the deck to last about 8 days. It's very cold outside, not even getting dressed today! Having a robe and slippers and cocoa day. A lady got sick and they didn't let me know they weren't bringing any more dinner. There really was no excuse for how it was handled. I've learned a lot through this process, about how to minister to someone who is going through illness/injury. I think it will help me be there for the next person in a very tangible way. There's so many things one can do (haul firewood, build fire, shovel snow, vacuum, fix meals, do laundry, go to the store, or even just visit! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feralfae Posted December 30, 2014 Report Share Posted December 30, 2014 Kay,I love how you have turned the hardships and disappointments of this time when you needed so much help into a time of learning how to be a more caring person yourself, although you are already one of the most caring people I know.I, too, have been surprised at how little others understand of the needs of someone convalescing, and I think that until we live through these experiences, it is difficult to understand the depth of our need and the needs of others going through the same issues. I know now that I did not give nearly enough compassion to others who had lost a loved one, because even when I lost my Dad, I did not feel the depth of pain and grief I felt when I lost Doug.Yes, you are right about the need for care, help, and company. Maybe the hospitals could make a list of the help people will need, and give it to patients PRIOR to the procedure, so we have more time to get help and visitors in place. I would have done more about that if I had known.I hope more of the lovingkindness and generous spirit that you share with others will be coming back to you now. You need it and you deserve it.*<twinkles>*fae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shalady Posted December 30, 2014 Report Share Posted December 30, 2014 I too am sorry you were let down. I wish I could help, I know how it is to need that little extra help if only for a few days. I also agree I have not given enough compassion to some who needed it. I had no idea what they were going through until now. I certainly will be there for others now that I know. Feel better soon and try to take it easy. I know that is not a simple task. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queeniemary Posted December 31, 2014 Report Share Posted December 31, 2014 Kay, glad you have wood for several days. You are a better person than I, I think. You are taking the disappointments you have received during your convalescence and turned them into a positive learning experience. I think I would have just been mad and hurt! Hope you feel better each day, and that soon you can have your Arlie at home with you. Staying in PJ's and cocoa sound like a pretty good day plan. QMary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HAP Posted December 31, 2014 Report Share Posted December 31, 2014 Be well, Kay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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